Cheating, by definition, means abandoning responsibility.

So a woman that cheats, sleeps around – just like a guy that sleeps around – only ‘wins’ or has her cake and eats it, too, if the only reason to sleep with someone is to have sex. Then the more partners, the more intimate encounters, the better.

But the issue here is what drives a woman who has chosen a partner, and also sleeps with him, might abandon that partner for an hour or longer. What happens in the relationship that causes her to even notice someone else and consider them as a sex partner.

A woman or man that cheats, that has made promises, has lost. They lost their honor, their respect for themselves and their partner and the one they cheat with. The sex follows the problem, not defines it.

My personal belief is that women and men can have different views on what constitutes an affair. Women want someone to talk too and who will listen beyond just grinting in agreement from behind a newspaper at the breakfast table. If this is all she gets at home and then some one comes along who does talk and who does listen then she may be tempted. but for a lot of women the infidelity is in talking freely about here feelings and her relationship and getting the desired response. An interesting question here would be

How many women have then gone ahead and been unfaithful with another man in order to preseve the emotional input they get and keep the man interested?

And there are men out there who do need to love (or really like) someone before they can have sex.

My father used to run a detective agency, and most of his clients were men. The men hired him to find out if their wives/girlfriends were cheating on them, and most of the time they were.

Leave the sitcomish attitudes of “men are scum, but women are perfect” at your doorstep next time.