Comments on: Guest Post: Why YOU Are The Problem: The Repeater Boyfriend

By: Gina

Gina — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 18:45:40 +0000

Yeah, exactly. I suppose the reason why I knew the script was because I was with a different man, same issues and patterns. It’s funny though, I also had the same patterns and issues that got me connected with these assclowns and EUMs in the first place! When you first start out dating you can chaulk it up to being naivve—but as the years pass and you repeatedly are with the same losers, accountability is a nice little lesson!!

By: The Evil Advice Columnist

The Evil Advice Columnist — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:40:39 +0000

I know a heartbreak can make a girl turn crazy against the man she loved, but what can make a man go bad for a girl he fancied?

By: Vixen

Vixen — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 07:06:34 +0000

Wow, you are awesome! Just wanted to say welcome to Baggage Reclaim, love your energy and great tips. Let’s get those re-do boyfriends out of our lives.

By: Drama Seekers: ladies do love drama…

Drama Seekers: ladies do love drama… — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 13:33:22 +0000

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By: lisaq

lisaq — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 11:36:43 +0000

I hate to quote Dr. Phil, but then again he’s spot on here. You teach people how to treat you. We allow them to disrespect us and treat us like crap, get sick of it, move on and then attract the next one who we allow to disrespect us and treat us like crap. Then we wonder why we keep attracting them over and over when it’s all about us…about what we believe we deserve. You’ve hit the nail on the head HAF!

By: Mims

Mims — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 23:44:08 +0000

I thought surely I was making “different” choices because each new man was (externally) different: a chef, a computer geek, a lawyer. Italian. American. Jewish.
Meh! Same shite, different man.

By: Plainbelly

Plainbelly — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 16:31:26 +0000

I’ve been struggling with the emotionally unavailable man in my life. I’ve been frustrated with him because I want more and he doesn’t want to provide it. And then last week I woke up with Deja Vu. I realized if I continue down this road with him that it will turn out like the gazillion men who came before him. He would perform a disappearing act and I would play the horrified victim. This post helps. I can’t rewind… but I can stop the repeats.

By: FinallyOverIt

FinallyOverIt — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 15:28:03 +0000

I think this is a different way of saying what this blog is all about–the emotionally unavailable man. You can call them “repeat boyfriends” if you like, but they are still emotionally unavailable men. And, the reason we are attracted to them is usually because we have had an “incomplete” relationship with our fathers, or we have unresolved issues with men for whatever reason. We need to focus on ourselves and why we choose these kind of men before the pattern can be broken.

By: NML

NML — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 14:39:29 +0000

Preach! Great post! I had umpteen boyfriends on repeat. I just thought I had a magnetic field around me or an invisible sign begging for assclowns on my forehead. It was only when I had a written record of my dalliances that I woke up and stopped thinking it was all one big accident. Funny how when I sorted out me, everything else fell into place… But it was a long, bumpy road. That’s why I love blogging – if I can spare women even a little of the pain, it’s good. So many choice lines in this post but this was the best : “if you have the power to attract disrespectful guys into your life, you also have the power to attract great, genuine, and loving guys into your life too!”