1. You keep engaging in the role of being The Other Woman.
2. You only become involved with emotionally unavailable men.
3. You go out with Bad Boys or Bastards in the name of excitement.
4. You keep dating the same ‘type’ that makes you feel miserable.
5. You happily shelve friends and family, especially when the object of your affections is clearly unsuitable.
6. You meet decent, nice men who want to treat you nice and spend time with you and you call them ‘Assholes’ or claim that it must be an act.
7. You want to be in a steady, committed relationship but keep sleeping around or being used sexually by men which further erodes into your self esteem hence stopping you from getting the relationship you want.
8. You do things that involve you willfully self destructing your life.
9. You get the opportunity to break up with the guy that is mistreating you, but you eventually take him back because you don’t value yourself enough and think it’s better to be with him.
10. You actually believe that it’s better to be with somebody, anybody than be alone.
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I’ve been there before #^ sounds all too familiar
Possible additions:
o You haven’t offered to help anyone outside work, this week. You have laughed with less than three people in the last month – outside of work, and more than 24 hours since using alcohol or drugs, and more than 6 hours before or after having sex.
o You tend to sleep with someone before introducing them to friends and family. You think of an intimate partner as ‘private’ or secret, rather than part of how you interact with your community and family. You consider sleeping with someone before meeting any of their friends and family.
o You look for ‘cute’ and ‘hot’ before stable lifestyle, honest and upright character, and responsible friends.
Just my thought, though. YMMV
6. You meet decent, nice men who want to treat you nice and spend time with you and you call them ‘Assholes’ or claim that it must be an act.
this is tough…what if you aren’t attracted to a certain guy? should you just date them because they are a “nice” guy? how do you even know they are really a nice guy? i’ve tried this before and it didn’t work out too well. it really did turn out to be an act. relationships are difficult and there is no cookie cutter plan. but i do say to try to avoid disrespectful behaviour and settling for less than you deserve.