Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl - A Guide to Emotional UnavailabilityAre you the Fallback Girl?

If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one but you’re struggling with commitment or you’ve been in the ambiguous territory of a ‘casual relationship’, you’ve likely tried to change them, wondered what you ‘did’ to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you’re going crazy.

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women that love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold, to where that future they promised went to, how you’ve ended up being a booty call, why you’ve been together for a gazillion years but aren’t going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you’re involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here.

You know you’re dealing with unavailability when you ask stuff like

  • What happened to that ‘great guy’ from the beginning?
  • Why won’t he break up or stay away if he doesn’t want to commit?
  • What the hell did I do to make him disappear?
  • Is he going to leave ‘her’ for me?
  • It’s because he’s shy/busy/scared of his feelings isn’t it?

Buy MR Unavailable and the Fallback GirlInspired by the real life adventures in unavailability of Natalie Lue and the readers of her site Baggage Reclaim, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is an empowering, entertaining and inspiring read that will wise you up to pitfalls such as men who aren’t over their exes, Future Fakers, guys that have more baggage than a Heathrow terminal and reappearing childhood ‘sweethearts’. If you want to understand your own availability, and why commitment in a healthy relationship is eluding you, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is your guide to being available and attracted to healthy, available partners.

How To Buy


UK and Europe readers can purchase Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl from Signed copies are available through the Baggage Reclaim Shop.

US & Canada Available in Paperback for US & Canada readers via and also via Createspace, which is also part of Amazon. Createspace also make the book available through various online sellers which you can check via the link.

All other countries – Where applicable on and also via its subsidiaries.


eBook PDF is £12 (approx US$18.75 or EURO 13.87- currency conversion for most currencies is calculated at the checkout) and it includes the ePub version which works on iPhones, iPads (use in apps like iBooks and Goodreader) as well as suitable for the Nook. This package includes an exclusive Feelings Diary worksheet, a beliefs guide worth £5, a Do I Need To Cut Contact Worksheet, plus the Unsent Letter Guide and worksheets.

Please note that this is the first edition in print but the second digital edition. This is a completely reworked and updated book which is nearly half the size of the original book. If you are a previous purchaser of Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, you will have received an email at the time of the launch back in September 2011 offering you a free update.

What’s the difference between the two editions? Aside from being almost half the size (it’s nearly 55K words smaller), while it does have the same foundation as the first edition and cover the topics, there’s lots of new topics including an enhanced chapter on unavailability, the introduction of The Buffer, the woman who overgives and gets involved with men who are on the rebound, descriptions of the typical guys and scenarios to watch out for, Future Faking, Fast Forwarding, baiting and switching, plus lots of moving on advice for helping you to be available.

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