It’s time for a Why Did We Break Up? episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions.
In the latest edition of this spinoff series, Molly is gradually rebuilding her life after the breakdown of her marriage where she’d struggled with depression and even feeling suicidal. She’d been with Steven since she was 17 (he was 18) and after fourteen years, two kids, marriage, and a business that they declared bankruptcy on, he said that he was going to stay with a friend for a few days and how he needed to be on his own because he’d never done so. Within days, it became very apparent that Steven had another agenda altogether and she feels rejected, replaced, and confused about why he is not on his own as per his original intentions. It’s time to answer the question, Why did we break up?
The posts I mention in the episode are:
Overfunctioning and under-functioning in relationships
Admit the cover-up and stop overcompensating
The podcast episode where I talk about being over-responsible
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Omg, Molly’s story is very congruent with mine: minus one kid, met very young, co-owned a business, previous infidelty, a bit of post-paurtum depression, feeling trapped/angry/not good enough. Thank you, thank you, for this validation of not going through this alone.
Molly, stay strong! It gets so much better on your own. You are good enough and have loving support available!
Thank you, thank you! We were married at 17, had 5 kids and ran a business together. If anyone asked me who I was I would reply ‘Mark’s wife’. I had completely lost myself in the relationship. He left 3 years ago (after 36 years) and moved very quickly into a new relationship. I have spent time working out who I am, making a bigger social circle and cementing bonds with my family whilst waiting on the divorce, which is now just happening. I really didn’t understand why he had left, but this episode opened my eyes to what was going on.
Incidentally, I am an oldest child, he is a rather spoiled baby of the family.
As I listened to this today, I thought, has Nathalie been following me around throughout my marriage and my divorce? 🙂 The story was very similar to mine in many ways and I really got a lot out of it especially with regards to the issues that I need to address. I’m going to sit down this weekend so that I can relisten and take notes.