The more we try to convince others is the more unconvinced that we become of ourselves.It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions.

In episode 52, I cover:

Why are you moving in together? Some people move in together as a demonstration of their commitment to each other and the merging of their lives and belongings, and some people see it as a ‘try before you buy’ to see if they want to commit. I talk about why it’s not a good idea to move in together for primarily financial/practical/trialing reasons and talk about some of the things we need to consider before we make that leap.

Seeking admiration, approval and validation. The more we look outside of us is the more insecure we feel. I talk about the dangerous compromises we make in our quest to convince others and why we can’t live our lives for others.

When we seek other people's approval, admiration and validation, we give them power over usDo you really need to warn them? I explain why advertising old hurts and our insecurities to new people creates problems.

Listener Question: After a series of painful relationships where she felt a lot of self-hatred during and afterwards, Nia has given up on falling in love again but it’s not going down very well with her loved ones. She wants to know whether she’s in the wrong for giving up or whether they are for pressuring her. | The post, ‘If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves

What I Learned This Week: I’ve got to remember what I’m going through right now.

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