There are certain things that throw up a red flag that may indicate that your man is cheating on you.

He’s routine to the point of being obstructive to the relationship.

Yes, some people are anal. Yes, some people have obsessive compulsive tendencies. But if a guy has a rigid routine he rarely deviates from, it not only shows he’s not including you properly in his life and adjusting to the relationship, but it might also be indicate that he’s cheating. Men that cheat do have a habit of being frighteningly routine so that they can schedule in the other woman.

He says you’re a couple but he only rolls up late. Or always the same time.

If your man is attending to business elsewhere, he has to tell some other woman a bullshit excuse about needing to go home so that he can skip over to you. Obviously, if you’re a booty call but you’ve convinced yourself that you’re more than that, this might not mean that he has another woman. But if you are more than a shag on the side, he should be able to show his head in the cold light of day.

He runs for his phone when it rings and takes calls in other rooms while talking in hushed tones.

Yes, it may be a business call. When it comes to cheating, though, there tends to be several indicators that add up together into cheating.

  • He smells of a perfume that’s not yours and tells you a convoluted story to explain it.
  • Suddenly, he showers a lot more.
  • He comes home later and later.
  • He stops telling you that he’s going to be late and continues to come home later and later.
  • There are suddenly a lot of wrong numbers or silent calls.
  • You find receipts for unexplainable dinner/underwear/flowers/hotels.
  • He says he’s in London on business but the PA distinctly says he’s in Leeds.
  • You find another mobile phone you didn’t know he had.
  • He omits as much detail as possible from his day to avoid being tripped up.
  • You catch something! Yes some cheaters are dumb enough to bring home an extra gift of an STD.
  • You find condoms but they’re not your form of contraception.
  • He claims he’s suddenly decided to start ‘treating’ himself to new clothing. Contextually, this is unusual behaviour.
  • He suffers from Those Who Doth Protest Too Much syndrome. A surprising trait of men that cheat is they have a habit of making a lot of noise about other men who cheat and how awful they are. They also tend to paint themselves as the Perfect Partner, placing themselves on a pedestal from other guys putting themselves in glowing light.
  • He’s suddenly very difficult to get a hold of.
  • He disappears for periods of time with little or no explanation.

Now, I don’t want anyone going straight to their man and kicking them out. Still, note that with the exception of a few, someone who has a combination of these behaviours should be making you feel nervous. Always act on hard evidence or very strong suspicion, and avoid operating on paranoia!

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