There are certain things that throw up a red flag that may indicate that your man is cheating on you.
He’s routine to the point of being obstructive to the relationship.
Yes, some people are anal.Yes, some people have obsessive compulsive tendencies. But if a guy has a rigid routine he rarely deviates from, it not only shows he’s not including you properly in his life and adjusting to the relationship, but it might also be indicate that he’s cheating. Men that cheat do have a habit of being frighteningly routine so that they can schedule in the other woman.
He says you’re a couple but he only rolls up late. Or always the same time.
If your man is attending to business elsewhere, he has to tell some other woman a bullshit excuse about needing to go home so that he can skip over to you. Obviously, if you’re a booty call but you’ve convinced yourself that you’re more than that, this might not mean that he has another woman. But if you are more than a shag on the side, he should be able to show his head in the cold light of day.
He runs for his phone when it rings and takes calls in other rooms while talking in hushed tones.
Yes, it may be a business call. When it comes to cheating, though, there tends to be several indicators that add up together into cheating.
He smells of a perfume that’s not yours and tells you a convoluted story to explain it.
Suddenly, he showers a lot more.
He comes home later and later.
He stops telling you that he’s going to be late and continues to come home later and later.
There are suddenly a lot of wrong numbers or silent calls.
You find receipts for unexplainable dinner/underwear/flowers/hotels.
He says he’s in London on business but the PA distinctly says he’s in Leeds.
You find another mobile phone you didn’t know he had.
He omits as much detail as possible from his day to avoid being tripped up.
You catch something! Yes some cheaters are dumb enough to bring home an extra gift of an STD.
You find condoms but they’re not your form of contraception.
He claims he’s suddenly decided to start ‘treating’ himself to new clothing. Contextually, this is unusual behaviour.
He suffers from Those Who Doth Protest Too Much syndrome. A surprising trait of men that cheat is they have a habit of making a lot of noise about other men who cheat and how awful they are. They also tend to paint themselves as the Perfect Partner, placing themselves on a pedestal from other guys putting themselves in glowing light.
He’s suddenly very difficult to get a hold of.
He disappears for periods of time with little or no explanation.
Now, I don’t want anyone going straight to their man and kicking them out. Still, note that with the exception of a few, someone who has a combination of these behaviours should be making you feel nervous. Always act on hard evidence or very strong suspicion, and avoid operating on paranoia!
More via a man I know who cheats:
Moble phone has saved phone numbers under just an initial or code word.
Moble bill is not itemized, he just added A LOT of minutes to his plan, and/or he has the bill sent elsewhere (job, PO Box)
When he turns his phone on in the morning there are one or more messages waiting OR–
he leaves his phone in the car still on so he can see if she called him while he was home.
He is suppose to be at work and comes home with a sunburn, smells of alcohol and/or freshly showered.
Check his golf bag/gym bag,under the floor mat in his car. Doesn’t think you will ever look in those places. I am sure my thong has seen many golf courses. They often want trophys but must hide them in a safe place.
He has an overnight bag in his car trunk with extra boxers, wine glasses, booze, you get the idea (for the afternoon hotel stop)
He us especially affectionate/horny because he is sexxxxeeedd up from a new lover. He may also want to try new things because he “read about it in cosmo”.
NML
on 20/12/2006 at 2:29 pm
These are great tips and ones that we should ALL be paying attention to! Thank you and stay alert!
kellyGreen12345
on 30/12/2006 at 1:34 am
You have separate lives.
You rarely date.
He takes business trips at the drop of a hat.
He attends too many happy hours.
He has lots and lots of “lady friends”. That makes it easy for him to cross the line.
Kamagra
on 23/02/2007 at 3:00 am
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DermaZinc
on 23/02/2007 at 10:39 pm
I have already enjoy your website, and it is so nice and cool. I will visit your website again. Thank you.
PeterHeron
on 24/03/2007 at 8:30 am
Well, well, I don’t like it. My girlfriend has cheated…again. The first time an exboyfriend rolled and simply told me: she said, “Peter, you know that’s a damn lie.I was with you all week.” Fact was he was off a week on his time. But he had a witness. Then Pat got a warrant on him for repeated calling, asking me to be a witness. Court is next week; I learned to be sneaky,so I checked Ms. Earnhardt’s cellphone. Guess who she spoke with for twentynine minutes: That’s right: Ol’ Henry Hunt, the exboyfriend. Well, I’m nursing my wounds here in High Point,NC. I just ended it: seems she has a new ‘peter’ in town. Peter Croft. Another ex lover that used to live here at Sheraton Towers.
penny
on 12/04/2007 at 4:05 am
always has his cell phone on him and when it rings he won’t answer
if he’s reading his email he will sign out of it if you walk by
how about cumstains on his underwear?
has no desire for sex
doesn’t care if you go out , or with who or when you get home
Nothing seems worth doing. Oh well. Not much on my mind today. I guess it doesn’t bother me.
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More via a man I know who cheats:
Moble phone has saved phone numbers under just an initial or code word.
Moble bill is not itemized, he just added A LOT of minutes to his plan, and/or he has the bill sent elsewhere (job, PO Box)
When he turns his phone on in the morning there are one or more messages waiting OR–
he leaves his phone in the car still on so he can see if she called him while he was home.
He is suppose to be at work and comes home with a sunburn, smells of alcohol and/or freshly showered.
Check his golf bag/gym bag,under the floor mat in his car. Doesn’t think you will ever look in those places. I am sure my thong has seen many golf courses. They often want trophys but must hide them in a safe place.
He has an overnight bag in his car trunk with extra boxers, wine glasses, booze, you get the idea (for the afternoon hotel stop)
He us especially affectionate/horny because he is sexxxxeeedd up from a new lover. He may also want to try new things because he “read about it in cosmo”.
These are great tips and ones that we should ALL be paying attention to! Thank you and stay alert!
You have separate lives.
You rarely date.
He takes business trips at the drop of a hat.
He attends too many happy hours.
He has lots and lots of “lady friends”. That makes it easy for him to cross the line.
I have already enjoy your website, and it is so nice and cool. I will visit your website again. Thank you.
I have already enjoy your website, and it is so nice and cool. I will visit your website again. Thank you.
Well, well, I don’t like it. My girlfriend has cheated…again. The first time an exboyfriend rolled and simply told me: she said, “Peter, you know that’s a damn lie.I was with you all week.” Fact was he was off a week on his time. But he had a witness. Then Pat got a warrant on him for repeated calling, asking me to be a witness. Court is next week; I learned to be sneaky,so I checked Ms. Earnhardt’s cellphone. Guess who she spoke with for twentynine minutes: That’s right: Ol’ Henry Hunt, the exboyfriend. Well, I’m nursing my wounds here in High Point,NC. I just ended it: seems she has a new ‘peter’ in town. Peter Croft. Another ex lover that used to live here at Sheraton Towers.
always has his cell phone on him and when it rings he won’t answer
if he’s reading his email he will sign out of it if you walk by
how about cumstains on his underwear?
has no desire for sex
doesn’t care if you go out , or with who or when you get home
Nothing seems worth doing. Oh well. Not much on my mind today. I guess it doesn’t bother me.