Why He’s Not An Assclown Because He Broke Up With You/Doesn’t Want a Relationship

Why He’s Not An Assclown Because He Broke Up With You/Doesn’t Want a Relationship

The moment that the decision is made for a relationship to end and the words are final, we feel an immense sense of loss, of insecurity, indignant hurt, and as the dust settles and the days and weeks pass, white space appears where you originally had plans with them....
Getting Real About Recognising Inappropriate Relationship Behaviour: He Doesn’t Need To Cheat (or Beat) To Be An Assclown

Getting Real About Recognising Inappropriate Relationship Behaviour: He Doesn’t Need To Cheat (or Beat) To Be An Assclown

In my last post I wrote about the key behaviours that assclowns rely on to mistreat you and manage the relationship on their terms including passive aggression, erasing the past by pressing The Reset Button, and deciding that ‘I’m not that bad’...
Am I Involved With an Assclown? How To Spot Someone Who Means You & the Relationship No Good

Am I Involved With an Assclown? How To Spot Someone Who Means You & the Relationship No Good

An assclown is someone that deliberately and consistently goes out of their way to treat you without love, care, trust and respect. They add little or no value to the relationship and the cost to you of being with him/her is often your self-esteem, your well-being,...
Why Aren’t I Attracted to the Good/Decent/Nice Guys?

Why Aren’t I Attracted to the Good/Decent/Nice Guys?

I get so many emails lamenting the confusion of women not feeling attracted to decent guys. Often we’ll try to force ourselves to keep dating them despite not seeing a future or resign ourselves to being mistreated by not-so-nice guys. Let me tell you why this...
Myth: There Are No Good Men to Date – Part One

Myth: There Are No Good Men to Date – Part One

I regularly receive emails that are along the lines of what Barbara, 41, recently sent me : “You are absolutely right in everything that you say about these men and the relationships that result but you don’t understand what it’s like. It feels like...