The “give and take” of relationships needs more intimacy and boundaries
Growing up, I often heard the advice “Relationships are about give and take”. Years on, and after hearing thousands of stories, I’ve realised that we’ve taken this too literally. It’s as if we think that one person exists to give and the...Healthy relationships don’t focus on ‘winning’ and avoiding ‘losing’
In an unhealthy relationship, incompatibilities and unmet needs feature alongside behaviours that don’t serve the greater good of the relationship. And all-t0o-often, the partners focus on ‘winning’ or avoiding ‘losing’. Even though it...We’re much happier, intimate and connected when we give from a place of trust
If we think of trust as an exchange of faith and giving as an act of generosity that we do based on trust, we quickly see where our sense of reciprocity kicks in. It’s not necessarily that we give to get per se, but we give with the faith that we won’t get...Asking for help isn’t reserved for struggles and emergencies
This year, a chief focus is pushing myself to ask for more help than I’m comfortable with. Thanks to being an over-responsible child who then became an over-responsible adult, I am well versed in ‘being strong’. My default setting is doing things...
