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Do we really want closure, or are we trying to win at proving we’re a Good Person?

When we’re a people pleaser, perfectionist or overthinker who’s likely been prone to overgiving and over-responsibility, there can be a tendency to want to control endings, including how the other party perceives us. We go through a break-up or have a...

If They Won’t Cosign To The Truth, It Doesn’t Invalidate It

by NATALIE | The BS Diet

I talk to so many people who feel frustrated by the fact that they see the truth but others don’t or choose not to, because it feels as if the truth isn’t the truth unless everybody agrees to it. It’s as if they’re not allowed to have their own...

Do you have Dater’s Block?

by NATALIE | Dating

After a breakup or a period of being single, many people struggle with getting back out there again, ‘there’ being into the dating pool. Whether it’s because they’re unsure of themselves after a period of grieving or that the last time they...

The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me?

by NATALIE | Letting Go

Sometimes we spend a little too much time wondering why someone who we gave so much of ourselves to, would return to somebody who mistreated them and gave so little in comparison and we forget to empathise, in spite of the fact that if we did, it would actually...

Faux empathy and backdated empathy: When it feels like you’ve been ‘jacked’

by NATALIE | Boundaries

I was laughing with a friend recently about feeling emotionally jacked by somebody. Many moons ago, she’d shared a painful experience with her mother, only be to met with derision and a lack of support. Feeling ashamed and as if her feelings and experience...