Podcast Ep. 222: They’re just not that into you?

In this week’s episode of  The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why some of us wrestle with ‘he’s just not that into you’. From the 2004 book of the same name and a hilarious episode of Sex and the City, this advice helped us to stop...

Pay attention to bad vibes and red flags on those early dates

When it comes to dating, we find it difficult to listen to ourselves. This is despite the fact that we’re either in the presence of a stranger or even if we know them somewhat, we don’t have romantic relationship experience with them. If anything, these two things...

How to use feeling uncomfortable to set better boundaries

A while back, I wrote about boundaries and the messages contained in our discomfort, including that something is unworkable, over the line or that we need more information. Discomfort is our body’s way of signalling that we need to take care of us, so learning...

Boundaries and the messages contained in discomfort

When you’re out of alignment with your values and needs, the discomfort you experience is an alert. It’s letting you know something about your boundaries, what is going on, and what potentially needs to happen. You’re being asked to do something...
We ignore red flags and our intuition because we want the fantasy

We ignore red flags and our intuition because we want the fantasy

When we’re truly honest about why we ignore red flags or what I call code amber and red alerts, it’s because we want whoever or whatever it is to become our ideal person or situation. We’re in pursuit of a far-out fantasy. And if despite the odds given the red flags,...