Feeling Not Good Enough and Angry: How Envy Reveals Our Self-Limiting Rules

Have you ever created tension or conflict to divert internal attention from feelings of envy? It results from feeling deflated due to comparison— estimating yourself against others. Examples of envy:  Feeling angry with yourself for not being happy for a friend....

Why is your ex or their new partner ‘so happy’ on Instagram when they mistreated you?

Pre-internet and social media, to know what your ex or their current partner was up to, you had to become a stalker. You had to be prepared to nose around extensively in their lives, and this was a signpost for recognising obsession. The idea of following someone or...

Podcast Ep. 184: ‘Why Am I Feeling OK?’ and Other Worries

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about four common questions some people are grappling with during the pandemic: Why am I OK?, Why am I not OK?, Why am I so angry?, and Why aren’t I doing more? I explore some of the reasons why we might be...

Podcast Ep. 163: Keeping Up With Comparison Part Two

Last week on The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I delved into comparison, including who we compare to and about what, why we do it, and the connection with perfectionism and shame. In part two of this episode, the focus is on breaking the cycle of comparison. **As...

Podcast Ep. 162: Keeping Up With Comparison Part One

We’re into what I call the 12 Weeks of Self-Esteem Torment which starts in the run up to Thanksgiving and Christmas/The Holidays, and finally eases up after Valentine’s Day. This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is a two-parter...