Resisting Change Leads to the Groundhog Day of Relationship Insanity

It’s easy to believe that you’re open to change if you’ve tended to lose yourself in your relationships. All the morphing, blending, and adapting to suit other people’s agendas was really you catering to your beliefs about yourself, love, and relationships. It...

It’s a bad deal if you have to compromise yourself

Before I was aware of my people-pleasing ways, I would always find a reason to justify compromising myself. It was a “great opportunity” or it seemed “urgent”. Maybe this person could be the “love of my life”. It’s best not to...

Giving To Get Along

People pleasing means that sometimes, possibly often, we confuse compromising ourselves and avoiding conflict with ‘giving’. In fact, much of what we regard as ‘keeping the peace’ equates to destroying our inner peace. Giving is the free...

Power Struggles in Relationships: Who’s really ‘winning’ here?

A very real concern that we have once the honeymoon phase begins to fade, or we abruptly come face to face with real life and normality where we discover that the our partner isn’t ‘perfect’ or that we have to learn how to communicate, be vulnerable and deal...