‘Keeping the Peace’ Just Might Be Hurting Your Emotional Wellbeing

Many people who don’t have self-esteem that they can rely on often consider themselves to be keepers of the peace. There’s just one not-so-small problem: their actions destroy their inner peace. Keeping the peace is often code for keeping it zipped when you want to...
Circular Disagreements and Why We Need to Stop Hoarding Our Resentments

Circular Disagreements and Why We Need to Stop Hoarding Our Resentments

Thanks to Marie Kondo, ridding ourselves of anything that we don’t truly need or that doesn’t “spark joy” is something millions of people have attempted. Most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of being a hoarder. It conjures up all sorts of imagery. Yet, we don’t...

Podcast Ep. 265: The Trouble With the Not-That-Innocent Good Girl/Guy

Have you ever wondered why some people are automatically assumed to be good, easygoing and innocent, and others are assumed to be bad,  difficult or misunderstanding a Good Person? Or perhaps you’ve felt perplexed by microaggressions from someone everyone sees in...

Podcast Ep. 245: Disagreeing With Loved Ones Doesn’t Have to Be Threatening

Why is it that we might be able to debate and have disagreements at work but panic and shut down or become defensive with loved ones? In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why we find disagreements and differences with loved ones...

Why Some People Call You “Needy” Even When It’s the First Time You’re Speaking Up

Few things wound, offend and confuse us, like being called “needy”, particularly when we typically avoid expressing our needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions as a rule. It’s like, So let me get this right. I avoid saying no and pulling you up on things...