Want More Dating Success? Be Discerning By Adopting a Recruiter Mindset

A recruiter is someone whose job is to match qualified candidates with suitable open positions at organisations. If they put any ole candidate forward for the role, they do everyone a disservice (and damage their reputation), so they have to be discerning. Having what...

Recognising Safe and Healthy Connections in Early-Stage Romantic Interactions

In our initial interactions with someone new, we are, on some level, attempting to decipher whether they are safe. Dr. Bruce D. Perry explains in his bestselling book with Oprah, What Happened To You? (Bluebird/Pan Macmillan), that we pick up on power differentials....

For Our Relationships to Be Intimate and Fulfilling, They Need Progress

Progression is one of the five landmarks of healthy relationships, along with balance, commitment, consistency, and intimacy. When you have the landmarks, plus you each endeavour to embody the four qualities of a loving partner, you co-create, forge and...

‘Getting Along’ Plus Compatibility Equals Intimate, Loving Relationships

The things we do to have harmonious and friendly relationships with others so that we can be happy and get what we want from life is ‘getting along’. It’s how we attempt to meet our emotional needs, which include safety and security, intimacy, connection, and status,...

Let’s Stop Tripping Over Our Attraction and Chemistry Blind Spots

The attraction and chemistry we experience at the outset of a relationship are based on snap judgements and the resonance of where we’re each at emotionally, mentally, physically, and even spiritually. This is normal. We don’t know the other person yet (or they us),...