In our intimate relationships, “stable” doesn’t *have* to equal “dull”

A frequent lament I hear from clients struggling to reconcile the reality of their relationship with the picture in their mind is ‘Why can’t they go back to being that great person from the beginning?’ or ‘Why can’t things go back to how they were at the start?’ The...
Why They’re Still Emotionally Unavailable Despite How Much You Tried

Why They’re Still Emotionally Unavailable Despite How Much You Tried

In my first book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, I talk about the self-blame someone’s emotional unavailability can trigger. “Many readers [of Baggage Reclaim] believe their situation is unique and that the strange relationship that they’ve found...
Podcast Ep. 124: 10 Key Signs of Emotional Unavailability

Podcast Ep. 124: 10 Key Signs of Emotional Unavailability

It’s over thirteen years since I started writing about emotional unavailability. Back then I identified key signs that someone was emotionally unavailable and these went on to form the backbone of my first book, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl. In this...
Podcast Ep. 82: Thick Skin and An Elastic Heart

Podcast Ep. 82: Thick Skin and An Elastic Heart

In this episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I give a preview of what’s ahead, sharing a little of where my head is at with Baggage Reclaim and my mission to help people Reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage. It’s basically my manifesto for...
48 Ideas For Increasing Emotional Availability & Breaking Harmful Relationship Patterns

48 Ideas For Increasing Emotional Availability & Breaking Harmful Relationship Patterns

Whatever it is that’s brought you to Baggage Reclaim and got you exploring the subject of emotional unavailability and emotional baggage, if you want your circumstances to change and for you to break your pattern, you will need to become more emotionally...