Podcast Ep. 223: The Gaslighting of Future Faking

If you’ve ever experienced self-doubt, confusion, disappointment and a sense of rejection after someone said or did things that intimated or outright promised a future that didn’t materialise, you’ve experienced Future Faking. In this week’s episode...

Podcast Ep. 214: We Don’t Need To Put So Much Bandwidth Into Keeping Up Appearances

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why keeping up appearances as a way of life can be so damaging and why we’ve got to connect with who we really are and want to be so that we stop reinforcing negative stories and outdated...
Podcast Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

Podcast Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

Greetings from Amsterdam where I’m having some lovely family time. This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions tackles the issue of knowing when we’re lying to ourselves. We’re all guilty on BS-ing ourselves from time to time but when...

Advice Wednesday: How Do I Begin To Make Sense of Being Catfished?

Jan asks: I met “Ryan, 35” on Tinder and we hit it off right away.  Within a few dates, I asked why a guy like him (handsome, smart and funny) would be online and he admitted that his wife had died of ovarian cancer two years before. I took his baggage into...
Advice Wednesday: Have I Misunderstood My Ex’s Unavailability?

Advice Wednesday: Have I Misunderstood My Ex’s Unavailability?

Elizabeth asks: I was in a fantasy and codependent relationship where I kept trying to extract empathy and commitment from a Mr Unavailable. It’s been five months since we split, and three since No Contact. Recently he contacted me but lazily and passive. I responded...