Love Because You Feel Good About Yourself, Not To Fill Voids

Love because you feel good about yourself, not as a means to feel good about yourself. You conceive your relationships before you even meet people because you will choose for where you’re at emotionally. Being involved with emotionally unavailable or even shady...

Why the 50:50 Mentality Falls Short in Romantic Relationships

Describing a relationship as 50:50 divides it in half, which is very subjective. How can anyone say what doing ‘their share’ is? A 50:50 mentality in relationships causes us to keep score. Instead of answering the question, Are we both being loving partners?, in 50:50...

Podcast Ep. 272: Are You Disappointed? Or Is It That You’re Angry?

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how not distinguishing between anger and disappointment can block us from taking care of ourselves and moving forward. Disappointment is the emotional state we experience when people,...
Podcast Ep. 130: Dating Anxiety & Why Efforts Don’t Equal Outcomes

Podcast Ep. 130: Dating Anxiety & Why Efforts Don’t Equal Outcomes

A challenge that often presents itself while dating is the struggle to stay hopeful and grounded while pursuing our need or desire for a relationship. After, for instance, taking time out from dating due to a breakup or to work on ourselves, we often endeavour to stay...

Giving Up The Role of Being Over-Responsible

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. I’ve hung back and dimmed my light so that my...