Questioning our complicated ideas about ‘love’ is the loving thing to do
To love someone involves meeting them where they’re at without losing yourself. Love is loving, caring for, trusting and respecting all of the person not just focusing on the good points. You let go of hidden agendas about what you want to ‘get’ from them (or avoid)....Podcast Ep. 249: The Trouble With Bare-Minimum Relationships
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I revisit the topic of accepting crumbs in our relationships. What does it mean when someone’s doing the bare minimum? Why, if they could do so much in the beginning of the relationship, are they...Being together 24/7 or sharing all the same interests won’t make a happy relationship
Our assumptions about what makes for a happy relationship are a source of unnecessary tension and frustration in our relationships. It’s this idea that ‘soulmates’ (or certainly people who ‘really love each other’) want to spend every spare moment together. We...The “give and take” of relationships needs more intimacy and boundaries
Growing up, I often heard the advice “Relationships are about give and take”. Years on, and after hearing thousands of stories, I’ve realised that we’ve taken this too literally. It’s as if we think that one person exists to give and the...
