Perfectionism Makes Us Feel Unworthy and Blocks Loving Relationships

Perfectionism, the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection, is soul-destroying and debilitating, sucking the joy out of everything from our work to our creative endeavours to our relationships. There are over eight billion people on the planet, and not one...

Taking Things Personally: What Is It, and How Do We Stop?

Since I started writing Baggage Reclaim, I’ve become increasingly mindful of where I tend to take things personally. These instances always point back at old hurts and narratives that I need to confront in some way. Of course, I’m not alone in taking things...

Podcast Ep. 248: Keeping It Real About Self-Esteem

The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast is back from its Christmas and New Year hiatus! In this week’s episode, I demystify the term ‘self-esteem’. I also break down why we don’t need to micromanage and overcomplicate our efforts to improve the way we feel about...

Podcast Ep. 235: Delusions of Inferiority

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about inverted narcissism. This is where we make everything about us, only it’s that we have an overinflated sense of our inferiority. Narcissists and the narcissistically-inclined, on the other hand,...

Boundaries regulate our inner narcissist

All humans can be narcissistic at times, but we don’t like to see ourselves in this way, even though it’s part of being human. Often, we associate narcissism with the shadiest, self-absorbed and unempathetic of folk. In reality, every single one of us has...