Podcast Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems

When we sense or know something that means we need to change course but we go ahead anyway, we’re always self-critical in the aftermath. We beat ourselves up for not having listened to ourselves. But a dilemma so many of us struggle with is knowing when we...

Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)

Even though we might consider ourselves to be empathetic, sometimes how we respond when other people express their fears is dismissive, judgemental and oversteps boundaries. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain we sometimes struggle...

Learning to Care Less About What People Think

Let’s not kid ourselves: Everyone cares about what others think to an extent. As humans, we all want to be accepted, and so conversely, we’re all afraid of rejection. We also like to follow the herd, even when it leads us off a cliff or into our...

“How could this happen to someone like me?” Erm, because you’re human!

A few years back, I brought my friend along to a meetup with BR readers as she was going through a difficult time due to having been involved in an affair. Part of her struggle was that she didn’t see herself as the ‘kind of woman’ who would get into...

Why You’ve Got To Minimise Comparison To Improve Your Self-Esteem

There are many people I could compare myself to, but I don’t, or at least I try to keep it to a minimum. I’ve become very conscious of where it’s likely to happen. My inner critic, the surprising perfectionist in me, can rear its ugly head and put me back on the ‘I’m...