Advice Wednesday: Should I warn other newcomers about his behaviour?

Advice Wednesday: Should I warn other newcomers about his behaviour?

Many many moons ago, my seventeen-year-old self had a guy that she thought was a friend do a very bad thing to her. I wondered if it was because my friend and I had affectionately or so I’d thought, made a joke about him, and for the next year, I slid into pain...
This isn’t love: You’re in pattern, they’re in pattern

This isn’t love: You’re in pattern, they’re in pattern

It’s so hard when I witness someone who keeps throwing themselves in the front line of pain by repeatedly returning to a toxic relationship or not leaving it. It’s not just because I’ve done it myself and it felt like a gradual exorcism of the past...

We Need To Talk About Narcissists: 20 Mindset Shifts To Help You Stop Crazy-Making Yourself

One of the reasons why I haven’t written directly about narcissists for some time (although I’ve covered the subject many times from different angles) is because there’s an overuse of the term: it can become a catch-all for anyone who behaves badly...

Advice Wednesday #5: My Ex & I Are Very Close (Includes Nude Sleepovers)–Why Does He Sleep With Everyone But Me?

The tricky situation: Kim asks, I pined for a Mr Unavailable for months while he let me believe that we were essentially together. Same song, different tune, I know. Fast forward–after things reached a breaking point, we agreed to be friends. So, I worked on me...

When they collect friendships with exes, get out of the harem!

Chatting with a friend recently, it became obvious that she was rather enamoured with a super ambiguous guy. A little probing revealed, however, that he has a hell of a lot of female friends. A lot. Like when you see those shows about hoarders where they can barely...