Superficial relationships signal the need to develop a more intimate relationship with ourselves
It can be pretty uncomfortable to acknowledge that sometimes we’re more superficial than we imagined ourselves to be. When we reflect, for instance, on our attraction to someone we experienced a great deal of pain with, we were often drawn to the appearance of...Jumping into relationships and belatedly realising commitment is involved
Being on the receiving end of not just someone’s intense interest in and attraction to us, but their seeming desire to jump into a relationship can be pretty intoxicating. The intensity creates this romance of false intimacy, and we think we’ve jumped into a fairy...
Rejection and disappointment are wounding when you were willing to give you up
Society has conditioned us to believe that abandonment of the self at the mere whiff of romantic interest or a potential relationship is normal. We think it’s the cost of finding love, so we’re willing to exchange loss of self for someone else’s...Boundaries regulate our inner narcissist
All humans can be narcissistic at times, but we don’t like to see ourselves in this way, even though it’s part of being human. Often, we associate narcissism with the shadiest, self-absorbed and unempathetic of folk. In reality, every single one of us has...
