Podcast Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing

In the final 2022 episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share a deleted chapter from my forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want. Originally titled Gone Girl, Tiger Woods,...

Love isn’t making you ‘crazy’; reality-check the relationship

An easy trap to fall into is reasoning that the dramatic shift in your behaviour, being consumed by someone, and feeling the acute turmoil of the relationship, is a measure of and response to your love for this person. But it’s not love making you feel, think...
Checking your sense of entitlement stops you from busting boundaries

Checking your sense of entitlement stops you from busting boundaries

You’re not entitled to a date or relationship with that certain someone. Even though you might be The Nicest Person on Earth TM or you bent over backwards to accommodate them by busting your boundaries, they’re still allowed to say no. They don’t have to reciprocate...
“I thought we were soulmates”

“I thought we were soulmates”

When we believe that someone was our soulmate, yet the relationship didn’t work, it throws us into a tailspin. Whatever our ideas about what a soulmate constitutes, our experience doesn’t reflect how we believe things should be. The outcome contradicts our...

Podcast Ep. 195: Are you being nice, or are you disguising anger and control?

I’m back after taking my summer break, and in this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I want to get into the subject of what can be the dark side of being nice. I talk about why, sometimes, we confuse what are actually our attempts to control, avoid...