Looking Past the Profile and Fast Talk: Finding a Loving Partner

Based on how dating websites/apps are driven or the mental wish list and criteria many of us have, you’d be forgiven for having personality traits, interests, hobbies, profession, height, how much they earn, their level of education, which religion or beliefs...

Why There’s No ‘Easy Cook’ Recipe for Real Relationships

Over almost two decades of writing about dating and relationships, I’ve observed time and again in people’s questions and anxiety that what many of us would love is step-by-step instructions for how to go from single to long-term relationship. Ideally, we’d also...

You can keep your options open while dating, but know your ‘why’

If you have several exes (or prospective partners) lingering, you may reason that your dating pool investment has the potential to be rewarded if one finally coughs up a relationship. The idea is that you’re spreading and limiting your risk by not cutting anyone...

Afraid of online dating? Here are 12 tips to get you started (or back into it)

I hear from so many people who feel triggered and anxious when they contemplate trying online dating or going back to it. They often worry about getting hurt, scammed, wasting their time and yes, making the same dating mistakes they did before. But you don’t...

Online dating and the fear of ‘ruling people out’

One of the challenges of online dating is knowing when to proceed or cut something short. Spend enough time using dating apps and sites and we’re likely to notice a pattern to the interactions that don’t work or that set off an icky feeling. What I see...