Podcast Ep. 231: One-Trait Minds and The Polar Opposites Game

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about one of my favourite subjects: not getting hung up on one particular thing that you look for in romantic partners (or even in friends). Time and again, that characteristic or quality that hooks...
Carting Excess Baggage Around Puts the Past on Repeat. Offload, Repack, Reclaim.

Carting Excess Baggage Around Puts the Past on Repeat. Offload, Repack, Reclaim.

Before I faced how I felt about my childhood, my relationships, and myself due to these and any choices I’d made in adulthood, I was avoidant. People asked what I was looking for in a relationship, and I’d make wisecracks. I’d regale them with tales...
Dating: He hasn’t made a move – What the..He’s gone back to his ex. Lessons on how to avoid being an emotional airbag

Dating: He hasn’t made a move – What the..He’s gone back to his ex. Lessons on how to avoid being an emotional airbag

I was speaking with a friend of mine recently who was quite bright and breezy as she was dating a ‘nice guy’ that she was introduced to via a work colleague that had been itching to matchmake them for ages. They’d been on three dates, he was calling...

The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships Part Two

A few days ago, I shared insight into how I bounced from relationship to relationship, unwittingly playing ‘The Opposites Game’. This is where you subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) home in on a trait (or traits) of your last partner that you...

The [Polar] Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships (Part One)

Many moons ago, I went out with a guy who was nine years older than me. He chased me hard; I wasn’t interested. But after being burnt by another Mr Unavailable who had the looks, charm, flash car, and excitement (I was only 21…), suddenly, even though he...