Podcast Ep. 235: Delusions of Inferiority

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about inverted narcissism. This is where we make everything about us, only it’s that we have an overinflated sense of our inferiority. Narcissists and the narcissistically-inclined, on the other hand,...

Podcast Ep. 229: Burning Out from Being There For Others

Some of us really pride ourselves on being there for others. However, if we don’t also have healthy boundaries and take care of ourselves, we feel drained, overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk...

Don’t confuse empathy with playing a role of accommodation and overcompensation

Something you need to be mindful of when you have a keen sense of empathy and can pick up, for instance, on what people are feeling or where they’re coming from, is not falling into a role of accommodation and overcompensating.  So, for instance, you notice that...
Podcast Ep. 141: Sometimes we’re over-empathetic instead of empathetic and boundaried

Podcast Ep. 141: Sometimes we’re over-empathetic instead of empathetic and boundaried

One of the reasons why we feel stuck in situations is due to overempathy. This is when we put ourselves in what we think is the other person’s shoes and then project our own stuff on to it, including our agenda. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim...
Podcast Ep. 136: All Is Forgiven?

Podcast Ep. 136: All Is Forgiven?

“Don’t bear grudges”; “Say sorry”; ”Move on!” These represent some of our early lessons about forgiveness. It’s unsurprising, then, that forgiveness is often regarded as something we bestow on others. We fear looking hard-nosed and selfish if we don’t, and...