More Authentic Yes is Great for Our Body’s Stress Levels

When you say yes, but inwardly mean no, you stress your body with the conflict of the lie. Saying and doing one thing and feeling another (people pleasing) from time to time isn’t going to do too much harm, not least because being an occasional (as opposed to frequent...

The Trouble with Pretending You’re Okay with Something When You’re Not

Often, when clients, readers and listeners share stories with me, there’s an element of emphasising that they’re okay with something. ‘I’m okay with [their partner] being friends with [person who’s bothering them].’; ‘I don’t mind that he has female friends.’; ‘I...

Podcast Ep. 239: Conflict Spotlights The Truth of Our More Fragile Relationships

It’s possible that you have a relationship with someone that even though you seem to get on some or a lot of the time, the relationship is fragile, delicate, even if you pretend to know otherwise. While maybe it’s not anywhere near as bad or awkward or whatever as...