The Relationship Pothole of Giving Our Power Away to False Authorities

All of us have relationship potholes. They’re blind spots that keep catching us out. One of mine I’ve had to face down numerous times over the years is about ‘authorities’.  Pre-Baggage Reclaim, I tended to put romantic partners on pedestals. Doing...

Our Codependency isn’t to Blame for Our Partner’s Emotional Unavailability

Maggie decided to attend therapy after her relationship ended due to what she defined as her “codependent behaviour”. Within weeks of beginning her sessions, she reconciled with her emotionally unavailable partner. The understanding between them became that any issues...

We don’t need to ‘confess’ our bad relationship experiences to a new partner

When we’ve had what we might term “bad past experiences” and we realise that we’re in the beginnings of a much healthier, loving relationship, it’s not uncommon to feel as if we need to confess to our unavailable and shady relationships....

Podcast Ep. 237: ‘Mutual’ Is a Mentality

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about the importance of entering into relationships and situations with a mutual mentality. I delve into what a ‘mutual relationship’ means, why power imbalances and not being yourself indicate...

Podcast Ep. 212: People Can Be More Than One Thing

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why seeing people, including ourselves, as only one thing is a trap. It causes us to deny, rationalise, minimise, excuse, assume and generalise and this always leads to big problems. Subscribe...