Healing Heartbreak: The Power of Acknowledging Your Role with Compassion

Part of processing the breakup of a painful relationship is talking about what the person did and didn’t do. It’s reminding ourselves of how much they hurt or disappointed us, lest we forget and get sucked into going back. We’re grieving the loss of our relationship....

Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All

The aim of a relationship isn’t to show up doing what you always do. You don’t have a pre-defined role. No, you don’t. Shout-out to all the people pleasers, including Florence Nightingales, Listeners, Buffers, Good Girls/Guys, Helpers, Savers, and more, of the world....

“Why Didn’t My Relationship Work Out?”: Incompatibility

We cite so many reasons some relationships don’t work out, but they’re one reason: incompatibility, also known as wanting different things. It’s nothing to do with being ‘good enough’. ‘Trying harder’ won’t fix it. When we break up with someone...

Understanding and Discovering Ourselves Through Relationships

Relationships help us to heal, grow and learn. Through our relationships, we figure out what feels good and right for us and what doesn’t. Regardless of the outcome, each relationship offers a window into understanding what we need. Only through our relationships can...

Podcast Ep. 275: You Don’t *Have* To Be Friends With Your Ex(es)

So many of us put ourselves under pressure to try and be friends with an ex. And, yes, sometimes we pressure our ex into trying to be friends with us. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why forcing ourselves or others to be friends...