How Self-Esteem Influences Romantic Attraction and Chemistry

Attraction is necessary, as it distinguishes our romantic relationships from friendships. Combined with chemistry, attraction is the sum of how we connect and relate to each other. If you treat and regard yourself with love, care, trust and respect, who you experience...

The Powerful Untruths of Our Negative Beliefs Block Loving Relationships

When something happened in your childhood that you didn’t like the look or feel of, you searched for reasons to explain it. Often, this meant making yourself the focal point of that reason, even though it might not have had anything to do with you. You reached...
Podcast Ep. 132: Fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped

Podcast Ep. 132: Fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped

While talking about dating and relationship anxiety in episode 130, I touched on fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why part of our struggle to be, do and have the things that we want,...
Advice Wednesday: Why Do I Have A Pattern of Valuing People Who Don’t Value Me?

Advice Wednesday: Why Do I Have A Pattern of Valuing People Who Don’t Value Me?

Bob asks: I have this pattern where people I hold as important to me do not find me all that important.  The best man at my wedding would never have dreamed of me as worthy of being more than a guest at his wedding.  My friends who I would have liked to have asked to...
Have You Already Made Up Your Mind About Dating & Your Future Prospects?

Have You Already Made Up Your Mind About Dating & Your Future Prospects?

“There’s no decent men left to date.” “Women only want flashy guys with lots of money who mess them around.” “Dating websites/apps are full of shallow/shady people and people don’t go out anymore.” “Men in their...