Having Needs and Boundaries Doesn’t Make You a Bad Person

Guilt is that sense you have of having committed a wrongdoing.Now, as feelings aren’t facts, feeling you’ve done something wrong isn’t the same as actually having done something wrong. Never is this more clear when you notice you are feeling guilty for: ...

Why We Don’t Leave Painful and Sucky Situations: It’s Due to People Pleasing

Something many of us find baffling is painful, sucky, one-sided relationships that, despite resenting our mistreatment by the other party, we find it challenging to create healthier boundaries and distance and/or cut ties. It’s all too easy to judge ourselves...

Some Parents Couldn’t Be Who We Needed, and We Need to Forgive Ourselves

There are so many humans struggling due to believing, on some level, that they’re not good enough because of childhood experiences. We misunderstand painful and uncomfortable events, and they become the story of who we are and can be. Regardless of whether we...

Dealing With Our Resentment Toward a Loved One Creates Healthy Boundaries

Part of being human means that sometimes we will grapple with feelings of resentment. We will simmer and stew about the unfairness of something and harbour ill feelings and grudges. Knowing that we’re grappling with feelings of resentment towards a loved one,...

Podcast Ep. 229: Burning Out from Being There For Others

Some of us really pride ourselves on being there for others. However, if we don’t also have healthy boundaries and take care of ourselves, we feel drained, overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk...