When is it ‘okay’ to have sex? You decide, not the fake rules and shoulds

When is it ‘okay’ to have sex? You decide, not the fake rules and shoulds

When is it okay to have sex? What’s the ideal number of dates (or months of a relationship) to have sex? Should I have sex on the third date? Does having sex on the first date write off any prospects of a relationship [with that person]? If they’re willing to wait to...

Podcast Ep. 206: Let’s Wait Awhile

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about waiting to have sex. When I said that I would do a series of episodes on sex in episode 202, by far the most requested topic was about abstaining. From waiting to have sex until, for example, a few months...

Podcast Ep. 202: Let’s Talk About Sex

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why we need to evaluate our relationship with sex, especially when it’s a factor in how we perceive and value ourselves as well as others, or we use it to try and control our relationship...

It’s Not That ‘One False Move’ You Made

Sometimes, if not often, we’re too quick to convince ourselves that we’re the architect of our own failure. We give ourselves too much credit for being in control of stuff that we’re not. As a result, when we experience disappointment and we’re of the inclination to...

Under pressure! When someone claims that they’re being pressured by you & how to deal with being pressured

In the last post, I shared the story of how my friend had been dating a guy and had wanted to take it slow but had changed her mind about sleeping with him because while they were on date #4, he invited her out for #5 the following night. As she got ready to leave the...