Podcast Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems

When we sense or know something that means we need to change course but we go ahead anyway, we’re always self-critical in the aftermath. We beat ourselves up for not having listened to ourselves. But a dilemma so many of us struggle with is knowing when we...

Podcast Ep. 240: Oh-Oh for Intensity and Fast Trust

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why intensity in the early stages of dating makes us feel so trusting and knowledgeable. Why is it that we think we know someone so well or behave as if they’ve already earned our...

In our intimate relationships, “stable” doesn’t *have* to equal “dull”

A frequent lament I hear from clients struggling to reconcile the reality of their relationship with the picture in their mind is ‘Why can’t they go back to being that great person from the beginning?’ or ‘Why can’t things go back to how they were at the start?’ The...

Getting to Know Romantic Partners Doesn’t Have to Be Taken So Personally

A significant factor in why people struggle with disappointment about dating and new relationships is mistakenly believing, on some level, that the aim of dating is to impress the person into being who we want them to be. Yes, that would be people pleasing....

Podcast Ep. 232: Columboing New or Prospective Partners on Social Media

via GIPHY When you’ve just started chatting to, dating, or going out with someone, it’s not usual in these times to do a spot of, how shall we put it, checking up on social media. OK, let’s call it snooping, columboing (I love Columbo!). You know,...