We Need to Be Investors, Not Bailiffs, In Our Relationships

Relationships are an investment. They involve an element of risk, and you don’t recoup your investment costs — time, energy, effort and emotion (your bandwidth). Investing ourselves into our relationships and priorities is the cost of getting involved, so we...

Don’t Explain Someone’s Disrespectful Behaviour to Them

Something I’ve seen many people do, and to be fair, I used to do it myself, is explain disrespectful and even abusive behaviour to the perpetrator. Here’s the craic though: What makes us think that someone doesn’t know that what they’re doing...
Podcast Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

Podcast Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

Greetings from Amsterdam where I’m having some lovely family time. This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions tackles the issue of knowing when we’re lying to ourselves. We’re all guilty on BS-ing ourselves from time to time but when...
Podcast Ep. 50: Getting Paid What You’re Worth, Knowing When To Fold, Means Goals

Podcast Ep. 50: Getting Paid What You’re Worth, Knowing When To Fold, Means Goals

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 50–yeah baby! It’s the big five-o!–I cover: Getting paid what you’re worth: Earlier this week I wrote about the vicious cycle of undervaluing yourself and I got me...
Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment

Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment

Many people protest about how “super busy” they are – I’ve been guilty of this at times myself – and I regularly hear the, “I don’t have time for dating” and “I don’t have time for a relationship”...