by NATALIE | May 1, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Earlier this week, I belatedly discovered that there isn’t going to be a series three for Netflix’s Friends From College because it was cancelled within weeks of the second series’ launch. It had a really good end of series and I wanted to know what...
by NATALIE | Apr 24, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
When someone shows us who they are, they’re showing us their values. If that’s different to who we are and where we want to go, we have to acknowledge this incompatibility. But sometimes, despite what we know, we look to give a second (or umpteenth)...
by NATALIE | Apr 20, 2020 | Healthier Relationships
A critical component of character, life skills and healthy interpersonal relationships is empathy. This is stepping outside of yourself and putting you in another person’s shoes so that you can consider their position. You have to do it, though, without losing...
by NATALIE | Apr 17, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
When an ex who didn’t treat us with love, care, trust and respect starts saying ‘all the right things’, it’s all-too-easy to be nostalgic. Next thing, we’re plotting our fairy-tale ending and possibly sacking off new relationships,...
by NATALIE | Apr 15, 2020 | Boundaried Breakups
No one really wants to go No Contact. They don’t. It’s why when we’re post-breakup and struggling to get over them or hurting from continued disrespect, mind games, mixed messages or just the realisation that it’s not possible to be friends at this...
by NATALIE | Apr 13, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Sometimes we set goals that are rooted in someone else’s actions, not ours. We decide that we want something. Rather than think about the actionable steps and the specific nature of the desire, we first identify a vague(ish) goal. Example: I want to be loved. I...
by NATALIE | Apr 10, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
So many of us struggle with giving ourselves permission to feel our feelings, especially when it comes to anger. We worry that anger is ‘wrong’ and that it makes us a rageaholic if we acknowledge and express it. But anger is a necessary and vital emotion...
by NATALIE | Apr 9, 2020 | Healthier Relationships
Here’s where I see so many people run into problems: they say that they want to be in a serious relationship, to settle down, and to no longer be in their old pattern, but their choices say otherwise. And it’s the latter that sets the stage for the...
by NATALIE | Apr 8, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
“Is it okay that I feel like this?” and “Am I normal for feeling like this?” are two of my most frequently asked questions when people share their struggles and experiences with me. And every time my answer is “It’s 100% okay to...
by NATALIE | Apr 7, 2020 | Dating
I hear from so many people who’ve found themselves in a casual relationship or something that seemed to have so much promise but kept going in fits and starts or halting. They’re not compatible, and their emotional needs are unmet. Without direction and purpose,...
by NATALIE | Apr 6, 2020 | Healthier Relationships
I talk to a hell of a lot of people who are, how shall we say it, boundary averse. It’s not because they’re shady, and they definitely don’t want to have issues with people. No, it’s because they see boundaries as threatening. They think that...
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