Maybe we don’t need to assume that our relationship has lost its spark
After being with our partner for a long time or getting caught up in the daily grind, it’s not unusual to feel as if the relationship is a bit tired. Feeling pulled in a million different directions by competing demands, as well as ageing, changing bodies, and...Podcast Ep. 261: What Does Punching Below Our Weight in Dating & Relationships Mean?
I receive a lot of messages from people wondering why they feel more confident dating and being in relationships with people who are ‘below’ or ‘beneath’ their level. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why...Giving 100 Percent Effort All The Time is a Boundary and Bandwidth Issue
As a recovering perfectionist and people-pleaser, I’ve acknowledged that my habits are significantly influenced by believing that anything less than 100% is ‘bad’. When anything was below, for instance, what my parents or teachers wanted or expected,...Podcast Ep. 260: Keeping It Real About What It Means to Take Responsibility
So many of us conflate responsibility with blame. It’s no wonder, then, that we struggle to take responsibility or to even know what responsibility is. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain what responsibility is and isn’t...We Don’t Need the Perfect Reaction to Our Upset but a Pause Helps
Far too many people pressure themselves to speak on something perfectly and immediately. They want to get fired up and know exactly what to say or do straight away. When they don’t, they beat themselves up afterwards for not having the perfect words or addressing...Podcast Ep. 259: Let’s Talk About Overgiving and Overcompensating in Our Relationships
Feel routinely underappreciated and taken advantage of despite how much you give and do? This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast is for you. Overgiving is where you exploit yourself through the guise of giving to make yourself feel needed,...Why do we get upset and offended when people decline our invitation?
As part of NPR’s Life Kit series on Instagram where they attempt to answer dilemmas in under one minute, I recently gave my advice on a wedding situation. The future sister-in-law was a maybe on attending the wedding because her child possibly had a recital that...Podcast Ep. 258: It’s Not Our Job to Meet Our Parents’ Expectations
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast, I talk about those annoying and hurtful comments that our parents make about us and our life choices that leave us believing that we are a disappointment. I delve into some of the ways our parents’...We Don’t Have to Judge Our Own or Other People’s Confidence Levels So Much
People often assume I’m extroverted and that I’m a Confident Person. They mention my public speaking, writing this blog for almost seventeen years, and my love of dancing and letting loose to 90s R&B or dance. I’m quite introverted though. I also...11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself
It’s easy to misconstrue stressful habits we’ve normalised, such as our anxiety, guardedness and a tendency to overthink and critique as being signs of conscientiousness. We might think we have strong morals or high standards. The truth is, though, that...
