by NATALIE | Sep 17, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about inverted narcissism. This is where we make everything about us, only it’s that we have an overinflated sense of our inferiority. Narcissists and the narcissistically-inclined, on the other hand,...
by NATALIE | Sep 10, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
I’m back following my eight-week summer break! In this episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain common scenarios where we don’t realise that we’re trying to be in control. Like when we take over in our relationships, play rescuer, or choose...
by NATALIE | Sep 9, 2021 | Patterns & Habits
I hear from a lot of people who don’t understand why being around their family pushes their buttons. They figure that because they’re however-old, or they don’t have these feelings or conflicts in other areas of their life, or they have money,...
by NATALIE | Sep 8, 2021 | Letting Go
Humans love to feel in control of the uncontrollable, which, incidentally, is pseudo-control. Comforting, sure, but nonetheless an illusion. Take breakups. We can feel, for all intents and purposes, ‘over’ our ex based on how we see life working out. Who...
by NATALIE | Sep 7, 2021 | Boundaries
A chief block to saying no is fear that it will cause us to miss out on an opportunity. Believing that indiscriminately saying yes is the route to happiness blocks opportunity and wellbeing, though. We wind up saying yes to everything, but we don’t practise...
by NATALIE | Aug 4, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Something I’ve come to fundamentally understand in adulthood is there’s no pleasing some people. And it’s not because you didn’t try hard enough or that there’s something wrong with you–some people don’t want to be pleased....
by NATALIE | Aug 2, 2021 | Dating
How someone interacts with money on dates can prove to be a deal-breaker. Despite expanding relationships beyond the outdated notion that male-female relationships are ‘the norm’, the mental stumbling block of who pays on dates persists. A legacy of what...
by NATALIE | Jul 21, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Sometimes we want to have sex, but, understandably, we might not want to wait until we’re in a relationship for that to happen. In theory, we should be able to sleep with someone without it needing to be complicated by getting to know them too much (or at all),...
by NATALIE | Jul 20, 2021 | Letting Go
Refusing to forgive yourself is a refusal to take responsibility. Just as punishing a child without a clear understanding of responsibility, the lesson and moving forward is ineffective and cruel, so is deliberately, whether you admit it or not, choosing to make you...
by NATALIE | Jul 19, 2021 | Patterns & Habits
Training for the London Marathon in 2018 revealed stark parallels between the training and going No Contact with an ex. Even though at the time, I hadn’t done the latter for thirteen years, the same angst and doubt gripped me. I started from scratch with a dose...
by NATALIE | Jul 16, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
If you identify with habits like people-pleasing, perfectionism, overthinking, overgiving and over-responsibility, odds are you’ve found self-care challenging at times. You might feel as if you’re behind, that you have to get it right if you want to become...
