Can I Build a Relationship on Just Sex?
I’m getting asked more questions by readers these days, so I will attempt to answer them publicly on the blog which will also give anyone who thinks they have a suggestion to chime in.
Nobody can build a relationship on just sex. In fact, if a relationship is what you’re looking for then making sex the priority in the hope that you may have a conversation one day, discover shared interests and be suddenly interested in each other on a variety of levels…is mad.
Sex isolated on it’s own in a scenario like this is just sex. A scenario that has a balance of everything else, plus the sex is a relationship. Anyone can have sex if they put their penis or vagina to it, but not everyone can make a relationship. If all you’ve been doing is shagging each other’s brains out, it says to me that forging a relationship wasn’t on the agenda in the first place.
And yes this applies to booty calls, f*ck buddies, ‘tings’, and anything else you want to call a scenario that focuses on getting naked without getting attached. If you want to build a relationship, put the sex on the back burner and bring getting to know each other into main focus.
Stuckey July 13th, 2006, 4:41 pm
Not to sound like Bill Clinton, but I think it depends on your definition of “relationship.”
Can you build a MEANINGFUL relationship (ie - Monogomous forever and ever) on sex? Not at all.
But two people banging each other is a relationship, no matter how long it lasts. Just don’t be so naive as to think it’s more than that.
NML July 18th, 2006, 2:48 pm
OK in that sense of the word it *is* a ‘relationship’ however, I know the man in my local newsagents from buying various things in there over the past year which means we have a ‘relationship’, albeit rather a thin one. In this case, just sex, is exactly just that though
The last line is spot on!