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Be more social. It may feel like you’re having your teeth pulled without anaesthetic but doing stuff that has you interracting with other people will help you to resume a normal life balance. It’s great for opening up opportunities for new friendships and may even benefit your work.
Learn from the break up. OK so you broke up, but it will be worse if you don’t take the positives from it, and most importantly, learn from the negatives. There is nothing worse than dragging your bad love habits with you wherever you go because you will end up with the same result every time until you learn from your mistakes.
Don’t punish your next partner. Treat each partner on an individual basis. If you’re learning from your mistakes this means that you should be able to judge the relationship on its own merit. Don’t allow paranoia from the past to enter the present. Often for instance, Nice Guys end up having to clean up after their partners penchant for Bad Boys. If you live in the past too much though, you aren’t ready to be in another relationship.
Get rid of the memories. Do your mourning and then pack up their stuff that you still have around your place and return it to them. Put away the photos, get rid of anything that keeps you in the past.
No Booty Calls With The Ex. You broke up for a reason and becoming a casual lay with them is a recipe for disaster. Do not make the mistake of falling into this trap – it very rarely ends well.
Hang with other singles. It’s bloody good fun and there are people that can relate to what you’re going through. You can also see how they are getting on with their lives and most importantly, party it up with them!
Don’t turn into a broken record. Of course you want to talk about it, but if it’s still you’re number one subject after 3 months, it’s time to zip it and talk about something else.
Take a holiday/vacation or a weekend break. They’re great for recharging your batteries and can also give you some time to think and find closure in a different setting.
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It helped me a great deal to know that very few people end up spending the rest of lives with the fisrt person, or tenth, that they care deeply about. Somehow knowing that gave me a broader perspective when I thought my world was coming to an end and I had lost “the one”.
Hey thats cool, your right, I was still talking about my ex girlfriend, asking mates if they had seen her about or they would say to me they had seen her and so at so etc,
Its not good lol, further more I still have the odd telephone conversation with her, why?????
I should of moved on by now