‘Casual’ is a Bad Word When Uttered by Women - Apparently
December 13, 2005 by NML
A friend of mine has commented that she is bewildered by the mixed behaviour of men when it comes to establishing which category that your ‘relationship’ falls into. If we say it’s serious, they nearly wee themselves in fright and start getting antsy and distant, because we’ve ‘defined’ things. But here’s where it gets interesting:
Tell a guy that it’s casual, that you’re just having fun and see how weird he acts then. They don’t get it. Even if they want it to be casual, their brain, their ego, just can’t cope with you wanting it to be casual because men seem to be programmed to think that all women should be wanting to lock them down.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say this again. Ladies, you don’t need to tell them that you want it to be casual. I know it’s nice to explain things and do the ‘honourable’ thing, but we are suffering from a serious case of ‘women who talk too much’ syndrome.
If it’s casual, it will show itself to be that and let him be the one to initiate the talk and just be non-plussed by it. Casual arrangements are supposed to be just that and when you have to have intense discussions about it, you know that it’s time to call time on it.
We try to do things the right way and are up front and honest about just wanting sex, or just wanting to take it easy, but this doesn’t appeal to the male instinct and I think they feel like they’ve been gazumped because wanting just sex, or to be casual probably reeks of role reversal and as for the being honest about it part, well a lot of guys find that to be a rather foreign concept…
So zip it up ladies, your mouth that is, and concentrate on enjoying yourself!
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too bad, you’ll get what you get and if you don’t like it, well then it was casual so it didn’t matter. Women don’t need to tip toe around men’s silly ego problems. Our society needs to quit coddling men so much and all their needs. Since when have articles ever pointed out men needing to be careful about how they say everything for fear of blowing it? I seem to recall some kind of mantra about accepting your guy as is… Nice try.