If You’re Serious About Being In A Serious Relationship, Accept No Substitutes

6-Week Self-Study Course To Get That Emotional Baggage Cleared So That You Can Be Available For The Real Deal

Hello! Do you know that a lot of the reasons why we’re drawn to people, why we want to be in a relationship with them and think it would be great, have got nothing to do with 1) compatibility and 2) whether our emotional needs can be met? And here’s the deal:

No matter how great the sex is, no matter how good they look, no matter how much we think we have in common with them, if we’re incompatible and have unmet needs, we’re unfulfilled. The relationship won’t work.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Imagine if you could take those past experiences and use them as intel to 1) move you towards a more mutually fulfilling relationship and, 2) move you towards becoming more of who you really are.

I invite you to join me on Break The Cycle, which has a wealth of insight, tools, processes and practices to help you break free of relationship patterns that aren’t serving you.

Because the truth is, this whole trying to figure out dating and relationships alone through trial and error, listening to or mimicking loved ones who might be leading you down a dead end, trying to come up with schemes to catch ‘em and keep ‘em, or people-pleasing in the hopes of being ‘chosen’, is tough.

When we turn 18, no one hands us a manual explaining how to navigate life, so after one too many painful dating and relationship experiences, we mistakenly blame it on us not being “good enough” and fear that there’s no decent folk left to date.

Adulthood is about unlearning all of the unproductive and downright harmful lessons and misunderstandings that we’ve picked up from childhood so that we can become more of who we really are. Unfortunately, many of us don’t realise this, and it can be tempting to give up or to stay stuck subsisting on crumbs (don’t).

That’s why I’ve created Break The Cycle and am giving you the classes and support to help you get to the bottom of your relationship patternand on the way to healing it, in as little as a month.

And do you know what? Given these Corona times we’re in, this is absolutely the time to dig into what’s been going on. Returning to what you know isn’t working for you or being less than who you are doesn’t have to be your future reality.

Become ready for the relationship and life you need, desire and deserve.

If being in a serious relationship and being done with Mr/Miss Unavailables is your top priority over the coming months, I would absolutely love to work with you.

I’m great craic, I seriously know my stuff and will possibly freak you out (in a good way) with how quickly I can pinpoint the personal baggage behind your pattern. I’m also compassionate and dedicated to helping as many people as possible to get out from the shadow of their pasts and into loving, awesome relationships.

If you’ve got any questions about the course, drop me an email at natalieATbaggagereclaim.co.uk (replace ‘AT’ with @), and I’ll be in touch ASAP.

Hope to see you in class.


£295 (approx US$390/Euro€340)

payment plan available


Understand where you are, how you got there, how to change your present circumstances, and how to maintain. 

>> You can’t move towards what you want and need if you don’t know and represent what that is. Figure out what you truly desire and need in a relationship and partner. 

>> It’s tricky to change what you don’t know, so let’s identify your pattern. 

>> Your pattern exists for a reason and contains powerful clues about how to heal, move forward and be more you. Discover the specific messages, guidance and healing contained in your experiences.  

>> Do a shedload of self-forgiveness work because you can’t move from where you are now to where you want to go if you carry the same beliefs, feelings, habits and baggage. 

>> Instil self-care practices that allow you to become conscious, aware and present so that the patterns can’t run you like they used to with the old triggers

>> Become more emotionally available making it so much easier to feel good about you and your relationships, choices and life in general. 


 It’s time to remove the hidden relationship blocks so that they feel confident and happier and become available for the relationship and opportunities you desire and deserve.


If any of the following sound familiar, Break The Cycle will make a huge difference to your wellbeing and experiences.

>> You lack confidence about dating or forging a relationship and so end up feeling anxious about getting things ‘wrong’ and jeopardising the relationship, or fear believing in someone and your future in case they disappoint.

>> You’re unsure of what you really need and want in a partner and can’t figure out where you’re going wrong.

>> You feel invested in relationships that don’t get off the ground or that hit obstacle after obstacle and are starting to doubt your worth and your good qualities.

>> You wake up hungry in your relationships wondering how you can be so into someone and yet you’re in pain and your needs aren’t being met.

>> You’ve been with same person, different package, and are winding up in variations of the same situation with similar frustrations and complaints, but you can’t quite see what the pattern is or how to move past it.

>> You want to be in a relationship and to meet ‘The One’ but are exhausted from past experiences and the dating process, or it’s feeling very do or die, ‘last chance saloon’.

>> You don’t truly feel good about or believe in you so you people-please, look for validation, put your romantic partners on a pedestal, and settle for far less than you deserve and you’ve forgotten how wonderful you really are.

Before taking Break The Cycle, I was terrified of getting hurt and settling for super-casual relationships. What I uncovered, especially about my secret anger and my fear of being trapped, blew me away. It forced me to confront the past in a really constructive and compassionate way. I met my current partner a few months later, and I know I wouldn’t have recognised and appreciated him without the work I’ve done. – Ailish, Ireland.


start now

SELF-STUDY registration now open

Course unfolds on a weekly basis initially, but you have one year’s access to the course so that you can continue to work at your own pace.

Enjoy access to a wonderfully supportive community (a private Facebook group) in which I am actively involved. 

£295 (approx US$350/Euro€345)

payment plan available

1: Book your course

2: Get your login details

3: Change the course of your relationships

Please note that as I’m based in England, I charge in British pounds. Dollars/Euros quoted are approximate.

  I just finished taking Break The Cycle – completely amazing, life-changing course. I absolutely loved it. Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight. Celeste, USA.


How many weeks does Break The Cycle run for?
This is a 6-week course.

What date does the course start?
The day you book.

Do I have access to the course material after the course ends?
Standard access is 12 months.

What format is the course material?

Video and audio versions for classes, and PDFs for any worksheets and other resources.

Has the course format changed? 

Yes. It used to be an 8-week course with a few weeks about relearning dating and relationships. Those latter weeks have been split into a separate course to make the courses super focused.

Do I have to show up at a particular time?
No. New course modules are released each week. The course is self-paced, so work it on your schedule.

Is the course suitable if I’m already in a relationship?
Regardless of whether single, dating, in a relationship or even married, start at ground zero to get a foundational sense of 1) you and 2) healthy relationships. So yes, it most definitely is suitable.

Is this different from The Pattern Breaker/Build Your Self-Esteem/The People Pleasing Diet?
Very. I have never run a course devoted to dating, relationships and emotional availability, although it’s been my most frequent request. I talk about the subjects from my other courses, but it is all content specifically created for Break The Cycle with deep dives and plenty of new concepts never revealed before on Baggage Reclaim.

Is there a payment plan?
Yes. There’s a 3-month. This is a payment agreement, not a subscription, so in agreeing to the plan, you are agreeing to pay the full amount over three months.

Are bursary places available?
Yes. I appreciate that some people have been really hard hit by the Coronavirus times we find ourselves in. Please email natalie AT baggagereclaim.co.uk with your request including a very brief explanation, and I will send you a special code that will reduce the course fee to the appropriate amount. If bursary places are full for that month, you will be added to the bursary waitlist for the following month.

Is the currency exchange quoted exact?
No, it’s approximate. Currency conversion from British pounds to US dollars or in fact any other currency is done at the time of the payment.

How much access do I have to Natalie?
I’m active in the private Facebook group where I do respond to posts and offer encouragement and support. Given that this is an online course and I, of course, only have so much bandwidth, I am not available for individualised, private support.

I’ve already booked to attend a Break The Cycle workshop- do I get a discount and what’s the difference?
Yes, you do get a discount, and you should receive an email from me. Get in touch if you haven’t had it yet and we can get you set up. The workshop is a hands-on opportunity to focus on the 7-step process for getting out of your own way. The course covers this but also has a hell of a lot more material that just couldn’t get covered in one day, including in-depth guidance on why your pattern exists, healing it, forging healthier relationships and recognising unhealthy ones, and plenty more. The one-day workshop is a hands-on day where you also benefit from the group environment and on-the-spot feedback from me. 

What’s the refund policy?
Refunds are available on the online course up until day 7 of the program. If you decide to cancel the course but keep your workshop place (or another bonus), you will be refunded the course minus the price of whatever you’re keeping.

Can I share my access/material with others?
Definitely not. The course and all of its materials are issued to the named student. Course materials are yours to download, but distribution/sharing is prohibited.

Can I gift someone with a place?
Yes, you can. Make your purchase and notify me afterwards at shop AT baggagereclaim.co.uk.

Is anything in the Facebook group visible to the public?
No. It’s a private and secret Facebook group. What you see in your feed is based on what you have access to not what other people can see. For detailed information on how groups work, please see Facebook’s guide to privacy settings for groups.

Do I get a discount if I’m a student/member already?
Yes, book via the courses website not on here. Please note that student discount places don’t include bonuses offered (if applicable).

Once I sign up, how long does it take for me to enjoy a student discount? You won’t receive one on your Break The Cycle purchase, but you will have student discounts after the refund term has ended (you will receive info on Day 8).