by NATALIE | Mar 6, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Sometimes we compartmentalise a person’s behaviour and focus on our feelings or the picture we’ve painted in our mind. The back and forth with our ex continues even though they still insist that they don’t want us or a relationship. We claim that we...
by NATALIE | Mar 5, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
All humans desire acceptance the most and so conversely, we fear rejection to the same degree. As a result, we all have some level of discomfort with criticism, and that’s the subject of this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. When we grow our...
by NATALIE | Mar 3, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
In an unhealthy relationship, incompatibilities and unmet needs feature alongside behaviours that don’t serve the greater good of the relationship. And all-t0o-often, the partners focus on ‘winning’ or avoiding ‘losing’. Even though it...
by NATALIE | Mar 2, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
If we think of trust as an exchange of faith and giving as an act of generosity that we do based on trust, we quickly see where our sense of reciprocity kicks in. It’s not necessarily that we give to get per se, but we give with the faith that we won’t get...
by NATALIE | Mar 1, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
I hear from so many women who fear misrepresenting their desire to have children but also don’t want to waste time. They feel as if they’re in a conundrum: ‘Scare off’ potential prospects or settle for less. Say their age, and the person might...
by NATALIE | Feb 28, 2021 | Boundaries
As a recovering people-pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker, I’ve sometimes experienced burnout due to unrealistic expectations, doing too much, and getting caught up in other people’s agendas. It’s scope creep: when the expectations, requirements,...
by NATALIE | Feb 26, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why keeping up appearances as a way of life can be so damaging and why we’ve got to connect with who we really are and want to be so that we stop reinforcing negative stories and outdated...
by NATALIE | Feb 25, 2021 | Boundaries
A while back, I wrote about boundaries and the messages contained in our discomfort, including that something is unworkable, over the line or that we need more information. Discomfort is our body’s way of signalling that we need to take care of us, so learning...
by NATALIE | Feb 24, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Every last thing that humans do is about our attempts to meet our needs. Because how well our needs are being met is communicated via our feelings, they’re emotional needs. There is this tendency for us to attach ourselves to fixed outcomes, goals, markers of...
by NATALIE | Feb 23, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Sometimes after I’ve stood up for myself, whether it’s in conflict situations or where I’ve essentially put my stake in the sand and said ‘Yep, this is who I am’ or ‘This is what I care about’ or ‘This is what I’d...
by NATALIE | Feb 22, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
This year, a chief focus is pushing myself to ask for more help than I’m comfortable with. Thanks to being an over-responsible child who then became an over-responsible adult, I am well versed in ‘being strong’. My default setting is doing things...
