by NATALIE | Jun 3, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
I’ve been black for almost forty-three years, almost forty-four if you count my time in the womb. There’s been heartfelt desire and urgency for people to not just care more about racism but to take a collective stand against it by reflecting it in their...
by NATALIE | Jun 2, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
There are times we experience doubt, so we feel uncertain about something or someone. Sometimes it’s us that we lack faith in, second-guessing ourselves and doubting our abilities, efforts, needs, desires, expectations, feelings or opinions. We don’t acknowledge...
by NATALIE | Jun 1, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Sometimes we’re afraid of saying no because we know with every fibre of our being that this is exactly how we feel. And we mistakenly believe that it’s selfish to honour those feelings and disappoint someone. But surely this renders our emotions useless? It...
by NATALIE | May 29, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
As I watched a press conference on the news earlier this week, I acknowledged a familiar uneasiness that reminded me of when I’d been in other situations like it. I was being gaslighted. The person was attempting to shift reality by creating doubt and confusion...
by NATALIE | May 26, 2020 | Healthier Relationships
Whether it’s with strangers, co-workers or in our intimate relationships, many of us dodge awkward and difficult conversations. Sometimes it’s because of our relationship with conflict and criticism. We might associate self-expression with alienation or...
by NATALIE | May 22, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about four common questions some people are grappling with during the pandemic: Why am I OK?, Why am I not OK?, Why am I so angry?, and Why aren’t I doing more? I explore some of the reasons why we might be...
by NATALIE | May 19, 2020 | Boundaries
All humans can be narcissistic at times, but we don’t like to see ourselves in this way, even though it’s part of being human. Often, we associate narcissism with the shadiest, self-absorbed and unempathetic of folk. In reality, every single one of us has...
by NATALIE | May 15, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
I mentioned my love of the TV adaption of Sally Rooney’s novel, Normal People, on Instagram Stories last week. Boy, did I get a lot of replies! People were ‘shook’ by the portrayal of a casual (and sometimes secret) relationship mixed with a...
by NATALIE | May 8, 2020 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Earlier this week, I wrote about why our needs and wants are not about how worthy and deserving we are. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I break down why blaming our disappointments on our worthiness and deservedness is the fundamental...
by NATALIE | May 6, 2020 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Central to the story of every struggle that someone has shared with me is the underlying notion that if only they were more worthy and deserving, they would have got what they needed and wanted, or they could be who they truly are. Believing that we are sufficiently...
by NATALIE | May 4, 2020 | Letting Go
What if part of our growth, happiness and healing (and that of others), is letting go when a relationship stands in the way of this? How differently would we view breakups or recognising incompatibility? All too often, we tend to internalise the letting go of a...
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