by NATALIE | Sep 24, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I delve into the topic of minimising ourselves and other people’s asks, expectations and behaviour. When we don’t prioritise ourselves and we also tend to rationalise other people’s malarkey as...
by NATALIE | Sep 22, 2021 | Happiness & Self-Esteem
Thanks to being socialised to disassociate from our bodies, we assume that if we buy, be, do or have the ‘right’ things then we will feel OK. We expect that we ‘shouldn’t’ feel anxious. And we also expect to be sure of ourselves all the...
by NATALIE | Sep 21, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Growing up, I often heard the advice “Relationships are about give and take”. Years on, and after hearing thousands of stories, I’ve realised that we’ve taken this too literally. It’s as if we think that one person exists to give and the...
by NATALIE | Sep 17, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about inverted narcissism. This is where we make everything about us, only it’s that we have an overinflated sense of our inferiority. Narcissists and the narcissistically-inclined, on the other hand,...
by NATALIE | Sep 10, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
I’m back following my eight-week summer break! In this episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain common scenarios where we don’t realise that we’re trying to be in control. Like when we take over in our relationships, play rescuer, or choose...
by NATALIE | Sep 9, 2021 | Patterns & Habits
I hear from a lot of people who don’t understand why being around their family pushes their buttons. They figure that because they’re however-old, or they don’t have these feelings or conflicts in other areas of their life, or they have money,...
by NATALIE | Sep 8, 2021 | Letting Go
Humans love to feel in control of the uncontrollable, which, incidentally, is pseudo-control. Comforting, sure, but nonetheless an illusion. Take breakups. We can feel, for all intents and purposes, ‘over’ our ex based on how we see life working out. Who...
by NATALIE | Sep 7, 2021 | Boundaries
A chief block to saying no is fear that it will cause us to miss out on an opportunity. Believing that indiscriminately saying yes is the route to happiness blocks opportunity and wellbeing, though. We wind up saying yes to everything, but we don’t practise...
by NATALIE | Aug 4, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Something I’ve come to fundamentally understand in adulthood is there’s no pleasing some people. And it’s not because you didn’t try hard enough or that there’s something wrong with you–some people don’t want to be pleased....
by NATALIE | Aug 2, 2021 | Dating
How someone interacts with money on dates can prove to be a deal-breaker. Despite expanding relationships beyond the outdated notion that male-female relationships are ‘the norm’, the mental stumbling block of who pays on dates persists. A legacy of what...
by NATALIE | Jul 21, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Sometimes we want to have sex, but, understandably, we might not want to wait until we’re in a relationship for that to happen. In theory, we should be able to sleep with someone without it needing to be complicated by getting to know them too much (or at all),...
