by NATALIE | Jun 11, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
When you encounter problems and challenges, is part of your struggle that you believe you shouldn’t be experiencing them in the first place? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why our attitude to...
by NATALIE | Jun 9, 2021 | Dating
Nobody knows what your boundaries are until you convey them through your actions.So many people have asked me variations of “I’ve been on a few dates with someone and I really like them, but they’ve busted my boundaries a few times. What should I say...
by NATALIE | Jun 8, 2021 | Patterns & Habits
Sometimes we can be wilfully and even dangerously naive about people we perceive to be authority figures. We decide, for instance, that because of some’s profession, that they always do the right. It’s this mistaken belief that authorities always have...
by NATALIE | Jun 7, 2021 | Patterns & Habits
Family can be wonderful (lucky you if this is your experience, haha!). If, however, you experienced boundary issues, trauma and neglect, you have to be careful of getting drawn into what basically boils down to bullshit (BS) and drama. Family will play the Guilt Card,...
by NATALIE | Jun 4, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I revisit the topic of pressing the ‘reset button’. This is where somebody attempts to reset the relationship to a point they feel most comfortable with by behaving as if the past...
by NATALIE | Jun 2, 2021 | Boundaries
In situations where, to you, the ‘right’ thing seems obvious, it’s easy to assume that the other party does too. In fact, when it comes to boundaries, we humans often veer between extremes. We think someone wouldn’t do something if it weren’t...
by NATALIE | Jun 1, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Believing you’ve put in too much to leave and that to ‘give up’ would be a ‘waste’ is a trap. You stay in a situation long past its sell-by date, blocking you from accepting, grieving and growing. The thing is, your efforts and experience...
by NATALIE | May 26, 2021 | Letting Go
Don’t get too caught up in the story. When you’ve experienced hurt, loss and disappointment, it’s easy to become swaddled in the security blanket of the pain. You get used to telling the story in a particular way. And then you repeat it, again and again, and...
by NATALIE | May 25, 2021 | Boundaries
Something I’ve seen many people do, and to be fair, I used to do it myself, is explaining disrespectful and even abusive behaviour to the perpetrator. Here’s the craic though: What makes us think that someone doesn’t know that what they’re...
by NATALIE | May 24, 2021 | Healthier Relationships
Not everyone is going to be happy for you when you are. People you will expect to share in your joy, to be pleased for you, to acknowledge whatever’s happened, might not. They’ll maybe like your Facebook or Instagram post(s) but say absolutely nothing at...
by NATALIE | May 21, 2021 | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
The reason why we, for instance, don’t ask for what we need and want, or have boundaries, or express our feelings or flag discomfort, and why we engage in habits like people-pleasing, is an underlying fear of being needy combined with also still trying to meet...
