All the knowledge and insight you need to help reclaim you from your emotional baggage.

Reclaimer membership is a subscription for people who want to break habits that affect their relationships and self-esteem. If being more assertive, improving your overall sense of self, and enjoying more loving relationships are at the top of your agenda, Reclaimer Membership will help you to become more consistent at self-care and tackle different areas of your life. 


Hi, I'm Natalie.


You know how Marie Kondo helps people to declutter their homes? Well, I do that, only with your emotional baggage. The past doesn’t have to be the reason you hold yourself back with people-pleasing and perfectionism, or why you settle for less than what you need, desire and deserve.


Love, care, trust & respect

I’ve been looking under the hood of interpersonal relationships and human behaviour for fifteen years, putting a name and conversation to subjects that weren’t being talked about (e.g. Future Faking, The Lean Period) as well as exploring the painful issues that all-too-often leave us feeling not ‘good enough’ and afraid of vulnerability, intimacy and abandonment.

It’s incredibly important to talk about the stuff that often leaves us riddled with anxiety, shame and confusion so that we tidy up our emotional baggage and free ourselves up to love and be loved. The blog dives deep on topics including emotional unavailability, people pleasing, perfectionism, shady relationships, healing old wounds, and so much more. 

In the summer of 2005, Natalie ended it with yet another emotionally unavailable guy that wasn’t ready for a relationship. During the call she asked “What makes you think that I’m the type of woman that would put up with a situation like this?” And then it hit her as past relationships flashed through her mind: it’s because she had been exactly that woman. People pleasing, ‘going with the flow’, fuzzy boundaries and letting herself be used in the name of ‘love’.

That epiphany sparked a radical overhaul of her life, and since then, Natalie’s used her journey to help many thousands of people break free of fear of abandonment and rejection.