Hello! I'm Natalie.
When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a teacher, then a detective (like Columbo or Jessica Fletcher, ahem), and then a writer.
Many moons later, and here I am teaching people who are tired of emotional unavailability, toxic relationships, and feeling 'not good enough', how to reduce their emotional baggage so that they can reclaim themselves and make space for better relationships and opportunities.
I also love playing detective and helping solve 'cases' like relationship patterns and shady situations.
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BAGGAGE RECLAIM INFORMATION
GET EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY FIGURED OUT
In this free and detailed guide, I explain the 7 key roles we adopt in romantic relationships that mean that we are settling for emotional unavailability. Also includes a free 5-day email series that helps you gain clarity around why you've been in unavailable relationships and what it is that you really need and want.
Hello, my fellow people pleasers and perfectionists.
Want better relationships?
Quit playing The Good Girl (or Guy) role and learn to be yourself.
Ready for real love, care, trust and respect? Quit forcing you to do stuff in the name of ‘winning’ someone (or something) when it's causing you to feel bad about yourself.
For a start, forcing anything leads to pain and general ickiness. I’m pretty sure you’re aware of this, but just in case, here’s why: you cannot attract someone who will love you for who you are when you’re afraid to be your true self, are holding you to impossible standards, or are putting up with shadiness in the name of being ‘nice’ and ‘loving’.
The other thing is that people pleasing and perfectionism have already been proven to not work for you—there’s a better, easier way to live and love: becoming more of who you really are by breaking the faux rules you’ve written for your life, confronting your emotional baggage (so it’s stops running you), and choosing wellbeing over pleasing.
Do this and you will not accept less from others than what you can already be and do for yourself.
That means no more sacrificing your needs and desires, or being sucked back in by the one who still can’t commit or treat you right. No more competing with others as if your love interest is The Grand Poobah.
It’s like, He-llo Dignity!
You will be less stressed, anxious, guilty, and resentful (yeah, I said it) and be happier, healthier and available for real love, care, trust and respect.
You'll do this all while being the most you you’ve ever been.
This is what I teach people pleasers and perfectionists how to do. How to break out of the roles that are holding them back, but also how to grow their confidence and self-worth with habit changes so that they can choose better relationships, actions, and opportunities.
Intrigued? Get a feel for me and the work I do here by having a mosey around the website, or go ahead and join the Reclaimers around the globe who are getting lighter and more authentic with each ‘Lost Luggage’ letter that lands in their inbox.
Love, care, trust and respect awaits you. This is especially the case if you’ve been subsisting on crumbs. Been there, done that, so know that you’re far from being alone.
Big squeezy hugs,
YOU CAN BREAK THE CYCLE
You are capable of being in a mutually fulfilling relationship with love, care, trust and respect. Yes, you are! But... past experiences may have given your good self the impression that there's something wrong with you (nope, that's not it) or that a loving relationship isn't in your future (also not true). What if you could find out exactly what has been affecting your pattern of relationships so that you could break the cycle? Help is at hand!