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Experience transformative sessions tailored to specific areas, each aimed at inducing profound shifts in your mindset and actions within romantic contexts.
Focus: get an overall grounding on the vital ingredients of loving relationships so you don’t settle for less
Imagine attempting to bake a cake without its core ingredients? Well, that’s what so many of us attempt to do with dating and progressing into a relationship. We have criteria, lists and ‘types’ that ignore or deprioritise what we truly need, desire and deserve. As a result, we often find ourselves in unfulfilling or even unhealthy relationships. In this illuminating class, I break down what it takes to create, forge and sustain mutually fulfilling relationships so that no matter what draws you to somebody, you don’t get sidetracked from building loving, caring, trusting and respectful relationships. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
Focus: understanding what compatibility takes so you can let go of what isn’t a fit and feel fulfilled in your relationships
Over almost twenty years of guiding people about dating and relationships, I’ve seen many thousands of people grappling with the same problem: repeatedly walking into the same traps of common interests, ‘type’, and chemistry. If you’re tired of finding yourself in unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships or feel like you keep falling for the same person, this class is for you. If you feel confused or in pain by your great-on-paper partner, help is at hand. I’m going to break down compatibility, including core values and the importance of meeting your needs, so you can recognise who’s right and know when to walk away. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
Focus: break the cycle of frustrating and anxiety-inducing dating patterns by starting out on the right footing
Are you tired of feeling anxious and uncertain in the early stages of dating? Do you find yourself caught in a frustrating cycle of moving too fast, people pleasing, freezing and stalling, or sacrificing your authenticity out of fear of scaring someone away or starting over? Let’s help you shift your dating mindset so you approach new relationships with confidence and intention. You’ll gain insight into the critical factors behind your dating struggles. Through a powerful framework, you’ll learn how to navigate the early stages of dating with authenticity, vulnerability, and self-trust. Discover what you need to know to proceed and when the right time is to ask critical questions. If you’re ready to break free from the cycle of anxious dating and cultivate meaningful, sustainable connections, this class is for you. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
Focus: teaching yourself to recognise when you’re in a right-fit relationship so you can feel safe and secure
Do you struggle to distinguish between healthy, loving relationships and unfulfilling or even toxic partnerships? Gain the tools and knowledge you need to see your relationships clearly and make empowered choices in love. We’ll dive deep into the four essential qualities of loving partners and explore the key landmarks of healthy, thriving relationships. We’ll also address recognising warning signs you need to address something and/or incompatibility. Whether you’re currently dating or in a relationship, this class will help you gain the clarity and confidence you need to cultivate the loving, supportive partnership you deserve. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
Focus: how to build and sustain intimacy with healthy boundaries so you and your relationship can thrive
A huge source of anxiety, confusion and boundary issues is not knowing ‘what goes where’ in dating and relationships. As a result, you may have expectations that don’t match the stage of your relationship. You might also lack the emotional availability and boundaries needed to foster the intimacy levels that sustain and grow your relationship, leaving you feeling unfulfilled. By understanding the natural progression of intimacy and the markers of each relationship stage, you’ll be empowered to communicate your needs more effectively, show up from a place of genuinely wanting your relationship to be intimate, and navigate your connections with clarity and confidence. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
Focus: navigate the joys and bumps of relationships and life from a boundaried place so you feel safe, secure, connected and committed
We co-create our relationships with our partners and co-piloting the relationship instead of one being the driver and the other the passenger is fundamental – and that takes boundaries. Key to healthy, fulfilling relationships, many of us find creating, honouring and maintaining boundaries challenging or even impossible. Learn the boundary basics, gain the skills and confidence to be yourself, communicate your needs, say no and express limits when necessary, and navigate conflict with grace and resilience. PURCHASE THIS CLASS
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I’m writer of one of the longest-running self-help, dating and relationship blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim, and author of five books including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, and The Joy of Saying No (Harper Horizon). I’ve spent two decades helping people who struggle with emotional unavailability, shady relationships, and settling for crumbs to break the cycle so that they reclaim themselves and experience more love, care, trust, and respect. I’ve been featured and quoted in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, The Observer, BBC, ITV’s Lorraine, NPR, and many more.
Throw in that we might not have observed healthy templates for relationships, plus we were conditioned into the likes of people pleasing, and it makes total sense that we’ve woken up in adulthood not knowing ourselves and making painful dating and relationship choices that leave us feeling perplexed and wounded.
When we’re in these patterns, it’s not unusual to feel that we’re “not good enough” and to doubt our worthiness for a loving relationship. This only makes it easier to accept crumbs from people who reflect our fears and negative beliefs, creating a vicious cycle that erodes our faith and confidence in ourselves and the possibility of being in a mutually fulfilling relationship while also liking ourselves.
I’ve spent twenty years exploring and studying relationships via my blog, podcast, books, courses, and client work while on my journey of healing childhood and relationship trauma. During this time, I’ve also enjoyed an 18-year+ mutually fulfilling, intimate, loving relationship. I have frameworks, practices, and tools to help you navigate dating and relationships from a place of deeper confidence, where you know what you’re looking for, why, where you’re at, and where you’re headed. You’re allowed to have needs; you’re allowed to want to be in a relationship; and the loving relationship you desire is possible
Classes are recorded and ready for you to watch within minutes of completing your purchase.
Classes are 60-80 minutes in a video format with captions, plus each has an audio version and transcript.
Yes. Access to my private Facebook community is included, plus you will receive a bonus invite to a Q&A session.
Yes! Q&As are to answer questions related to the classes and also to help troubleshoot and resolve issues participants are wrestling with. You can also post in the private Facebook group where I’m an active participant, plus you can get really helpful feedback from members. However, given that it’s a Q&A/Facebook groups, it won’t be individual coaching sessions for each participant! If you want more in-depth guidance on personal matters, you can book consultation sessions with me.
I host all of my classes at courses.baggagereclaim.com. When you log in, you can see your class(es) in your dashboard. If you’ve taken any of my courses or classes in the last three years, it will be the same access information as previously. Should you have trouble logging in or not receive your access info, please hit reply on your purchase email and we’ll get the issue rectified quickly.
If you cannot pay because of financial hardship, please email natalie AT baggagereclaim.com (replace AT with @)
Choose the applicable subject line: ‘scholarship’ (unable to pay) or ‘bursary’ (able to pay some money).
You don’t need to go into the ins and outs; I appreciate you might be going through difficulties and it’s hard when you feel as if you’ve got to lay yourself out. Just a brief note about needing to apply and which class(es) will more than suffice. You will receive a reply within 2-3 working days.
Each class description (above) includes the core topic and the main themes the class speaks to. If you want to get an overview of how to co-create and sustain healthy, intimate, loving relationships, the first class, Readying for Love, is a great place to start. Otherwise, pick the area(s) you want to troubleshoot. Not sure? Drop me an email at natalie AT baggagereclaim.com.
Classes are available individually for US$100 or as the series of six for US$450 (saving 25%). I’ve designed the classes to be great standalones as well as within the series. You don’t need to have watched previous or all of the classes to benefit from one. Obviously, if you feel as if dating and relationships have been a bit of a bust for you, the entire series is the ideal one to go for. Remember, each class targets a specific area of dating and relationships. Check the class list and see which ones resonate. If there’s one that makes you want to avoid the topic, that’s probably the one you need the most!
Yes, it does. Log in to your membership, and you will see it in your dashboard.
I hear you. I think plenty of us have signed up for classes and courses we didn’t actually use or that failed to deliver on their original promise. Much like going on disappointing dates and experiencing breakups doesn’t mean you shouldn’t write off the possibility of successfully dating and enjoying a healthy, loving, intimate relationship (I’m living testament it takes just one person in the end!), don’t write off the opportunity to find support and resources to help you take care of your needs and desires. And I mean that regardless of whether you take these classes or not.
I have a unique and well-developed take on relationships, with twenty year’s experience working with clients and getting under the hood of relationships and what makes people tick. You won’t be just hearing same old same old. What you learn in these classes means you won’t have to approach dating and relationships like a headless chicken anymore.
No, I can’t live your life for you or deliver a partner and relationship to your door, but what I am offering are accessible and actionable insights, frameworks and tips that give you guardrails to get on with the business of being you while dating or being in a relationship – and all in a quick class format. You can also gain support within the private Facebook group if you have questions.
That’s okay. Check in with yourself about whether you don’t feel ready because you’re not or whether it’s out of fear of what you might uncover. Either is okay, and it’s also good to know your ‘why’ so you can best take care of your needs. If it’s a matter of time commitment, the classes are 60-80 minutes each. Listen to or watch as many times as you like. If you’re feeling bruised by dating and relationships, you will gain answers as to what’s happened and why so you can set yourself free. But, ultimately, take these classes when it feels good and right for you.
I’m a big advocate of taking a dating hiatus, so good for you. Now could be the perfect time to take these classes when you have space from being on the apps or being involved with someone. Prepare for dating in the future. With my classes, you can do the work upfront of getting clear about what you need and want as well as where you’ve maybe had blind spots so that you know what to walk away from and what to say yes to.
Absolutely. People take these classes to gain validation about the relationship they’re in and trust their instincts and decisions. From understanding what healthy, loving, intimate relationships take so they can recognise it in their own relationship, to understanding what matters in terms of compatibility and acknowledging where there might need to be clearer communication about their needs, to understanding what intimacy actually is and looks like, to learning how to communicate, interact and, yes, sometimes disagree from a place of embracing healthy boundaries.
Remember, none of us were taught about how to create, forge and sustain healthy relationships while growing up or about what our needs and wants are. As a result, we don’t trust our yeses and nos and we sometimes focus on the wrong thing to the detriment of our well-being and relationships. The Relationship Fundamentals classes allow you to shore up your foundation and chart a path forward from a place of love, care, trust and respect with your partner.
The classes are 60-80 minutes long each. You can watch at your own pace or download the audio version to listen on the go. The classes are designed to be digestable, and if you get stuck for some reason, post in the private Facebook community or drop me an email (I have a dedicated inbox for students of my classes and courses).
I know dating and romantic relationships can be tough. Putting ourselves out there and opening ourselves up to others in the name of trying to love and be loved and then it not working out is one of the toughest things humans go through. I also know figuring out who we are alone and in partnership is hard – I’ve been through this too and want to help you.
Let’s work through this together, because even though reflecting on some of your past dating and relationships maybe makes you grit your teeth and side-eye or maybe just even thinking about trying again feels daunting, experiencing a mutually fulfilling relationship with love, care, trust and respect is worth it.
You can figure this stuff out, and I hope you’ll do that with me.