The Pandemic Will Teach Us To Be More Boundaried

The Pandemic Will Teach Us To Be More Boundaried

In my teens, I would sometimes be in situations where boys pressed to go further than I wanted. I learned how to steer busy hands back up north and to try to make it all as nicey-nice as possible so they didn’t feel wounded and I didn’t feel threatened....
Protecting a loved one from the wrong crowd

Protecting a loved one from the wrong crowd

While doing a big sort-through of Things I Always Intended To Publish, I found this note (and my response). It delves into what can often seem like the blurred lines between help and support. My son is in substance abuse recovery. He’s always picking the wrong...

Boundaries regulate our inner narcissist

All humans can be narcissistic at times, but we don’t like to see ourselves in this way, even though it’s part of being human. Often, we associate narcissism with the shadiest, self-absorbed and unempathetic of folk. In reality, every single one of us has...
I Am Not Invisible

I Am Not Invisible

Sometimes we find ourselves experiencing a sense of invisibility and it can be all too easy to put it down to us being too sensitive/needy/dramatic/not confident enough and blah blah blah. Granted, we all have our moments of insecurity and yes, sometimes we project...