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Saying yes requires discernment if we are to enjoy genuine opportunities

by NATALIE | Sep 7, 2021 | Boundaries

A chief block to saying no is fear that it will cause us to miss out on an opportunity. Believing that indiscriminately saying yes is the route to happiness blocks opportunity and wellbeing, though. We wind up saying yes to everything, but we don’t practise...

We can unlearn our anxiety about other people’s moods and behaviour

by NATALIE | Jun 28, 2021 | Boundaries

When someone close to you is unhappy, unreasonable or out of sorts, what happens? Do you immediately wonder what you’ve done or feel some level of obligation to ‘fix’ it? An easy thought trap to fall into is, This person’s unhappy. It must be...

It will take more than one attempt to communicate your boundaries. Keep going!

by NATALIE | Jun 24, 2021 | Boundaries

If you think you can go from having no boundaries to suddenly having them or expressing them once and that people will roll over or thank you for it, think again. The truth is, some people are very used to your old boundaries and may take some time to adjust....

Is it that work doesn’t allow you to have boundaries or that *you* don’t?

by NATALIE | Jun 22, 2021 | Boundaries

If you struggle with saying no, expressing your limits and knowing your responsibilities at work, it’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself. Is it that you can’t say no or that you’ve never said no in the first place? Is it that you can’t say that...

Why ignore your ‘life data’ when you can utilise it and take care of you?

by NATALIE | Jun 14, 2021 | Boundaries

Thanks to a lifetime of experiences so far, we all have our own personal encyclopedias of what does and doesn’t work for us. But we often don’t utilise this vital intel about our needs, desires, values and boundaries. Instead, even though we know that, for...

Please don’t wait around for people to do the right thing by you

by NATALIE | Jun 2, 2021 | Boundaries

In situations where, to you, the ‘right’ thing seems obvious, it’s easy to assume that the other party does too. In fact, when it comes to boundaries, we humans often veer between extremes. We think someone wouldn’t do something if it weren’t...
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Set yourself free. #peoplepleasing #recoveringpeoplepleaser #baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #thejoyofsayingno

Set yourself free.

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When I talk to people about why they’re afraid of having boundaries, time and again, especially when it’s about work, they’re afraid of burning bridges. 🔥 Just like all the stuff we hold onto in our homes ‘just in case we might need it one day’, we believe that not having boundaries means we’ll have more opportunities. Yes, but it will be for bullshit and assholery! It will be for burnout and ill health. Avoiding healthy boundaries keeps you strapped, *connected to* unhealthy situations and people who want to exploit you being willing to exploit yourself. So burn that proverbial bridge. Build better boundaries for yourself instead so that you don’t destroy your inner peace and you can align with the people, things and situations that allow for love, care, trust and respect. #baggagereclaim #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno

When I talk to people about why they’re afraid of having boundaries, time and again, especially when it’s about work, they’re afraid of burning bridges. 🔥 Just like all the stuff we hold onto in our homes ‘just in case we might need it one day’, we believe that not having boundaries means we’ll have more opportunities. Yes, but it will be for bullshit and assholery! It will be for burnout and ill health.

Avoiding healthy boundaries keeps you strapped, *connected to* unhealthy situations and people who want to exploit you being willing to exploit yourself. So burn that proverbial bridge. Build better boundaries for yourself instead so that you don’t destroy your inner peace and you can align with the people, things and situations that allow for love, care, trust and respect.

#baggagereclaim #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno ...

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You’re not ‘letting someone down’ by not being able to exploit yourself or allowing others to do it to you. Same for recognising your limits and acknowledging the impact of stress-related illness, burnout and any other impacts on your bandwidth and wellbeing. Disappointment is a vital component in helping people to adjust unrealistic and quite frankly, exploitative expectations that prevent healthy boundaries. Be careful of being so over-responsible that you worry more about the people who’ll be ‘let down’ by you stopping yourself from drowning than you are by drowning itself. #baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #boundaries #peoplepleaser #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleasing #codependentnomore #burnout #burnoutrecovery #selfcarefirst #selfcarequotes #exhaustion #exploited

You’re not ‘letting someone down’ by not being able to exploit yourself or allowing others to do it to you. Same for recognising your limits and acknowledging the impact of stress-related illness, burnout and any other impacts on your bandwidth and wellbeing. Disappointment is a vital component in helping people to adjust unrealistic and quite frankly, exploitative expectations that prevent healthy boundaries.

Be careful of being so over-responsible that you worry more about the people who’ll be ‘let down’ by you stopping yourself from drowning than you are by drowning itself.

#baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #boundaries #peoplepleaser #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleasing #codependentnomore #burnout #burnoutrecovery #selfcarefirst #selfcarequotes #exhaustion #exploited ...

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Someone who’s going to be ‘scared off’ by boundaries is somebody who never intended on having a mutual, honest, intimate relationship. They are uncomfortable with receiving ‘no’ and you having limits (and would exploit you saying yes for the wrong reasons). They’re not comfortable with truly getting to know *you*. So let them be scared because boundaries filter in the people, opportunities and things that allow you to be more of who you are, not less of it. #boundaries #emotionalbaggage #baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #shadypeople #thejoyofsayingno #codependentnomore #relationshipadvice #trustyourself #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing

Someone who’s going to be ‘scared off’ by boundaries is somebody who never intended on having a mutual, honest, intimate relationship. They are uncomfortable with receiving ‘no’ and you having limits (and would exploit you saying yes for the wrong reasons). They’re not comfortable with truly getting to know *you*. So let them be scared because boundaries filter in the people, opportunities and things that allow you to be more of who you are, not less of it.

#boundaries #emotionalbaggage #baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #shadypeople #thejoyofsayingno #codependentnomore #relationshipadvice #trustyourself #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing ...

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Do you know who winds up experiencing burnout? Over-responsible people. The more you say yes when you really need or want to say no is the less bandwidth you have. Keep doing this and you’ll experience burnout due to missing signs from your body about your needs while taking responsibility for things that aren’t actually your responsibility. Take care of you. #baggagereclaim #burnoutprevention #peoplepleaser #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #recoveringperfectionist #healthyboundaries #overresponsible #thejoyofsayingno #listentoyourbody #listentoyourself #workboundaries #overgiving #codependentnomore

Do you know who winds up experiencing burnout? Over-responsible people. The more you say yes when you really need or want to say no is the less bandwidth you have. Keep doing this and you’ll experience burnout due to missing signs from your body about your needs while taking responsibility for things that aren’t actually your responsibility. Take care of you.

#baggagereclaim #burnoutprevention #peoplepleaser #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #recoveringperfectionist #healthyboundaries #overresponsible #thejoyofsayingno #listentoyourbody #listentoyourself #workboundaries #overgiving #codependentnomore ...

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I turned 44 today and I’m pinching myself in disbelief that I’m definitely not a teenager any more 🤣 I took this photo earlier today while out at lunch with my family. Within a couple of hours, my mother was having a go at me. Some things just don’t feckin change, and yet, I’m ok. Thankfully I’m boundaried enough to say no to smoking the crack pipe of making sense out of nonsense! And I share this because I know I’m not alone in struggling with family. It is possible, though, to recognise that things are not OK with certain people *and also* still be OK with *yourself*. There’s liberation in saying “We are not OK” because then you can choose boundaries instead of gaslighting yourself into making things ‘OK’ with them by compromising yourself. You accept who they are and know what you’re dealing with. This time last year, I’d signed a contract with my literary agents on the eve of my 43rd birthday. I didn’t know what lay ahead, and I had to work through a lot of stuff along the way and really own and back myself. Last night, the contract for my book deal came through. A lot can change in a year. Hell, a lot changes in life. You don’t have to be defined by your childhood or trauma, and you are allowed to evolve. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

I turned 44 today and I’m pinching myself in disbelief that I’m definitely not a teenager any more 🤣

I took this photo earlier today while out at lunch with my family. Within a couple of hours, my mother was having a go at me. Some things just don’t feckin change, and yet, I’m ok. Thankfully I’m boundaried enough to say no to smoking the crack pipe of making sense out of nonsense!

And I share this because I know I’m not alone in struggling with family. It is possible, though, to recognise that things are not OK with certain people *and also* still be OK with *yourself*. There’s liberation in saying “We are not OK” because then you can choose boundaries instead of gaslighting yourself into making things ‘OK’ with them by compromising yourself. You accept who they are and know what you’re dealing with.

This time last year, I’d signed a contract with my literary agents on the eve of my 43rd birthday. I didn’t know what lay ahead, and I had to work through a lot of stuff along the way and really own and back myself. Last night, the contract for my book deal came through. A lot can change in a year. Hell, a lot changes in life. You don’t have to be defined by your childhood or trauma, and you are allowed to evolve. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. ...

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The thing about trying to be what we think others want is that when things don’t work out, we feel even *more* rejected. It’s like ‘Jaysus, they don’t even want the fake me that did everything they wanted, so what chance does the real me stand?!’ It’s disappointing, frustrating and painful when we put a lot of effort into something and things still don’t go the way we want, but at the end of the day, the main source of our suffering is our self-abandonment. Don’t reject you to win over people. #baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #rejection #abandonmentissues #selfabandonment #codependentnomore #peoplepleaser #boundaries #peoplepleasing #recoveringpeoplepleaser

The thing about trying to be what we think others want is that when things don’t work out, we feel even *more* rejected. It’s like ‘Jaysus, they don’t even want the fake me that did everything they wanted, so what chance does the real me stand?!’

It’s disappointing, frustrating and painful when we put a lot of effort into something and things still don’t go the way we want, but at the end of the day, the main source of our suffering is our self-abandonment.

Don’t reject you to win over people.

#baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #rejection #abandonmentissues #selfabandonment #codependentnomore #peoplepleaser #boundaries #peoplepleasing #recoveringpeoplepleaser ...

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Every time someone tells me that they haven’t had the necessary boundary because the person “means well”, I fear for them. We find it hard enough with shady folk, especially the ones who keep telling us that it’s for our “own good” or a sign of how much they care about or love us. When we’ve decided that someone is “nice” and “well-meaning”, we will often opt to suffer it out as we don’t want to hurt their feelings, or appear ungrateful or pee on their parade. But we don’t need to decide whether or not we can have boundaries based on whether someone ‘deserves’ it, as if to suggest that boundaries are only for bad people or those we’ve decided can ‘handle it’. Our boundaries are based on who we are—our needs, desires, values, expectations, not on other people’s seeming intentions or whims. When you hear yourself rationalise that someone “means well”, halt. What are you denying about the situation? Where are you ignoring yourself? What are you avoiding saying or doing? #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #peoplepleasing #boundaries #thejoyofsayingno #boundaries #healthyboundaries #healthyboundariesforkindpeople #baggagereclaim #healthyrelationships #listentoyourself #listentoyourgut

Every time someone tells me that they haven’t had the necessary boundary because the person “means well”, I fear for them. We find it hard enough with shady folk, especially the ones who keep telling us that it’s for our “own good” or a sign of how much they care about or love us.

When we’ve decided that someone is “nice” and “well-meaning”, we will often opt to suffer it out as we don’t want to hurt their feelings, or appear ungrateful or pee on their parade.

But we don’t need to decide whether or not we can have boundaries based on whether someone ‘deserves’ it, as if to suggest that boundaries are only for bad people or those we’ve decided can ‘handle it’. Our boundaries are based on who we are—our needs, desires, values, expectations, not on other people’s seeming intentions or whims.

When you hear yourself rationalise that someone “means well”, halt. What are you denying about the situation? Where are you ignoring yourself? What are you avoiding saying or doing?

#recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #peoplepleasing #boundaries #thejoyofsayingno #boundaries #healthyboundaries #healthyboundariesforkindpeople #baggagereclaim #healthyrelationships #listentoyourself #listentoyourgut ...

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This is a forever vibe, but I’m particularly feeling it today. One of the best things you can do instead of trying to get a PhD in other people’s BS is accept that some people don’t make sense, that being around them or trying to apply your way of life to them involves too much mental gymnastics and self-gaslighting. The more you try to make sense of out of nonsense is the more you mess with your head. Protect your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing. #baggagereclaim #mentalhealthmatters #gaslighting #emotionalintelligence #healthyboundaries #notetoself📝 #selfcaretip #listentoyourself #gaslightingawareness

This is a forever vibe, but I’m particularly feeling it today. One of the best things you can do instead of trying to get a PhD in other people’s BS is accept that some people don’t make sense, that being around them or trying to apply your way of life to them involves too much mental gymnastics and self-gaslighting.

The more you try to make sense of out of nonsense is the more you mess with your head. Protect your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing.

#baggagereclaim #mentalhealthmatters #gaslighting #emotionalintelligence #healthyboundaries #notetoself📝 #selfcaretip #listentoyourself #gaslightingawareness ...

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Learning to listen to your gut allows you to become a safe person for yourself. And it will take practice deciphering your gut from fear. #baggagereclaim #trustyourintuition #trustyourgut #listentoyourself #listentoyourbody #yourbodyisntwrong #emotionalintelligence #innercritic #healthyboundaries #selfcare #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #notetoself📝

Learning to listen to your gut allows you to become a safe person for yourself. And it will take practice deciphering your gut from fear.

#baggagereclaim #trustyourintuition #trustyourgut #listentoyourself #listentoyourbody #yourbodyisntwrong #emotionalintelligence #innercritic #healthyboundaries #selfcare #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #notetoself📝 ...

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So much of what we believe we ‘should’ be and do to be good leaves us feeling anything but this. Instead, we feel ‘not good enough’, worthless, anxious, afraid, resentful, overwhelmed, guilty, ashamed, frustrated and more. Don’t confuse ‘good’ with obedient, compliant, selling your soul, or ignoring your needs, values and boundaries. #baggagereclaim #boundaries #thegoodgirl #healthyboundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #thejoyofsayingno #recoveringperfectionist #burnoutrecovery

So much of what we believe we ‘should’ be and do to be good leaves us feeling anything but this. Instead, we feel ‘not good enough’, worthless, anxious, afraid, resentful, overwhelmed, guilty, ashamed, frustrated and more.

Don’t confuse ‘good’ with obedient, compliant, selling your soul, or ignoring your needs, values and boundaries.

#baggagereclaim #boundaries #thegoodgirl #healthyboundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #thejoyofsayingno #recoveringperfectionist #burnoutrecovery ...

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As a recovering people pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker, I’m all too familiar with basically attempting to Jedi mind trick people with my goodness, overconscientiousness and performing. It was as if I thought it was easier to try to control the uncontrollable than just have some feckin boundaries and stop my suffering! Boundaries won’t make people spontaneously combust into who you’d prefer them to be, but they will limit the impact of anything that has the potential to encroach on your wellbeing. #baggagereclaim #boundaries #healthyboundaries #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno #selfcare #peoplepleasernomore #codependentnomore #anxietyawareness

As a recovering people pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker, I’m all too familiar with basically attempting to Jedi mind trick people with my goodness, overconscientiousness and performing. It was as if I thought it was easier to try to control the uncontrollable than just have some feckin boundaries and stop my suffering!

Boundaries won’t make people spontaneously combust into who you’d prefer them to be, but they will limit the impact of anything that has the potential to encroach on your wellbeing.

#baggagereclaim #boundaries #healthyboundaries #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno #selfcare #peoplepleasernomore #codependentnomore #anxietyawareness ...

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What if you feeling guilty about taking care of you isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong but a sign that you never consider yourself? If your body interprets you as being in a foreign and scary situation, of course you’re going to feel guilty as it thinks the norm is self-neglect. Take care of you. #baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno #selfcare #listentoyourbody #burnoutrecovery #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #boundaries #mentalhealthawareness #anxietyawareness #listentoyourself #workboundaries #emotionalintelligence

What if you feeling guilty about taking care of you isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong but a sign that you never consider yourself? If your body interprets you as being in a foreign and scary situation, of course you’re going to feel guilty as it thinks the norm is self-neglect. Take care of you.

#baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #thejoyofsayingno #selfcare #listentoyourbody #burnoutrecovery #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #boundaries #mentalhealthawareness #anxietyawareness #listentoyourself #workboundaries #emotionalintelligence ...

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Before you hate on you for not being able to do all the things and maybe feel as if your body is ‘failing’ you (it isn’t) or that you should be able to keep up and do whatever is thrown at you or that you decide to take on (nope!), halt. We live in a culture that loves putting everything down to laziness or lack of resilience or whatever. Actually, our lack of energy, or the load of resentment, guilt, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, anger, etc., is us being over our bandwidth. Our bodies aren’t wrong; it’s all the BS we’ve internalised that makes us think we’re supposed to be machines that’s the problem. #baggagereclaim #mentalhealthawareness #anxietyawareness #boundaries #healthyboundaries #listentoyourbody #listentoyourself #selfcare #burnoutprevention #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #recoveringpeoplepleaser #workboundaries #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealthawarenessweek #embroideryart

Before you hate on you for not being able to do all the things and maybe feel as if your body is ‘failing’ you (it isn’t) or that you should be able to keep up and do whatever is thrown at you or that you decide to take on (nope!), halt. We live in a culture that loves putting everything down to laziness or lack of resilience or whatever. Actually, our lack of energy, or the load of resentment, guilt, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, anger, etc., is us being over our bandwidth. Our bodies aren’t wrong; it’s all the BS we’ve internalised that makes us think we’re supposed to be machines that’s the problem.

#baggagereclaim #mentalhealthawareness #anxietyawareness #boundaries #healthyboundaries #listentoyourbody #listentoyourself #selfcare #burnoutprevention #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #recoveringpeoplepleaser #workboundaries #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealthawarenessweek #embroideryart ...

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It’s a lot easier to get a sense of what you need and what’s out of whack when you’re not going so hard or so fast that you miss signals from your body and life that you’re over your bandwidth and crossing boundaries. Taking care of you every day, not just when shit hits the fan, allows you to live your life more in a way that supports you instead of burning you out as a way of life. Episodes 219 and 220 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast are about the baggage behind why we don’t allow ourselves to rest and why it’s ok to have work boundaries. Link in bio. #baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #boundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasers #recoveringperfectionist #burnoutrecovery #stressreduction #listentoyourbody #selfcare #selfcaredaily

It’s a lot easier to get a sense of what you need and what’s out of whack when you’re not going so hard or so fast that you miss signals from your body and life that you’re over your bandwidth and crossing boundaries. Taking care of you every day, not just when shit hits the fan, allows you to live your life more in a way that supports you instead of burning you out as a way of life.

Episodes 219 and 220 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast are about the baggage behind why we don’t allow ourselves to rest and why it’s ok to have work boundaries. Link in bio.

#baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #boundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasers #recoveringperfectionist #burnoutrecovery #stressreduction #listentoyourbody #selfcare #selfcaredaily ...

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I’ve felt pretty pooped for the last few weeks and am doubling down on early nights and taking space to slow down so I can find a new rhythm. The slight easing of lockdown restrictions meant that we could venture to the beach for a change of scenery today. It was exactly what we all needed! And check out Chester trying to take over the photo 🤣👏🏾❤️ The current episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about allowing ourselves to rest and why we experience so much resistance and burnout. Link in bio. One of the things I’ve realised is that there will always be more things to do, so it’s best to make sure you make space for rest so that you have a more realistic sense of what you need and want to do. #baggagereclaim #cockerpoosofinstagram #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #boundaries #healthyboundaries #selfcare #cockerpoo #cockerpoolove

I’ve felt pretty pooped for the last few weeks and am doubling down on early nights and taking space to slow down so I can find a new rhythm. The slight easing of lockdown restrictions meant that we could venture to the beach for a change of scenery today. It was exactly what we all needed! And check out Chester trying to take over the photo 🤣👏🏾❤️

The current episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about allowing ourselves to rest and why we experience so much resistance and burnout. Link in bio. One of the things I’ve realised is that there will always be more things to do, so it’s best to make sure you make space for rest so that you have a more realistic sense of what you need and want to do.

#baggagereclaim #cockerpoosofinstagram #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #boundaries #healthyboundaries #selfcare #cockerpoo #cockerpoolove ...

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It’s easy to tell ourselves that we’re making someone feel ‘good’, not hurting their feelings or avoiding awkward or painful conflict and criticism when we say yes when we really need, want to or should say no, but our dishonesty and lack of boundaries leads to guilt, shame, resentment, frustration and anxiety, to name just a few. In the end, even though people won’t be all-singing and dancing about it (and nor do they need to be), they much prefer clear boundaries and communication to you feeling crappy or them feeling bad about themselves. #baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #healthyboundaries #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #healthyrelationships #resentment

It’s easy to tell ourselves that we’re making someone feel ‘good’, not hurting their feelings or avoiding awkward or painful conflict and criticism when we say yes when we really need, want to or should say no, but our dishonesty and lack of boundaries leads to guilt, shame, resentment, frustration and anxiety, to name just a few.

In the end, even though people won’t be all-singing and dancing about it (and nor do they need to be), they much prefer clear boundaries and communication to you feeling crappy or them feeling bad about themselves.

#baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #healthyboundaries #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #healthyrelationships #resentment ...

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I’m often asked ‘But how do you know that you need or want to say no?’ The clue is why we said yes (because we’re afraid or trying to control something) or in the way we’re thinking, feeling and behaving during or after we’ve said yes. Here are a few of the signs, including mentally panicking, devoting your bandwidth to coming up with excuses to get out of things, and praying for a catastrophe or to get ill so that you can get out of something. And I have 400+ scripts to help you reclaim your boundaries and bandwidth. Link in bio! #baggagereclaim #howtosayno #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #boundaries #healthyboundaries #healthyrelationships #codependentnomore

I’m often asked ‘But how do you know that you need or want to say no?’ The clue is why we said yes (because we’re afraid or trying to control something) or in the way we’re thinking, feeling and behaving during or after we’ve said yes. Here are a few of the signs, including mentally panicking, devoting your bandwidth to coming up with excuses to get out of things, and praying for a catastrophe or to get ill so that you can get out of something.

And I have 400+ scripts to help you reclaim your boundaries and bandwidth. Link in bio!

#baggagereclaim #howtosayno #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #boundaries #healthyboundaries #healthyrelationships #codependentnomore ...

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At 43, I’m really embracing being my kind of woman, not what society tells me I *should* be. I’ve demanded far too much of myself and acted as if I’m for everyone else’s consumption. Nope! International Women’s Day is a good time to show your younger self some love and acknowledge all the women you’ve been on your journey. Show her some love. #iwd2021 #innerchild #innerchildhealing #baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #listentoyourbody

At 43, I’m really embracing being my kind of woman, not what society tells me I *should* be. I’ve demanded far too much of myself and acted as if I’m for everyone else’s consumption. Nope!

International Women’s Day is a good time to show your younger self some love and acknowledge all the women you’ve been on your journey. Show her some love.

#iwd2021 #innerchild #innerchildhealing #baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #listentoyourbody ...

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My inner perfectionist, if it had its way, would ensure that I did everything A++++++++++++++ 🤣 There’s beauty in not trying to do everything ‘perfectly’ and not putting the expectation on yourself that you have to be The Best. But you also don’t need to make out like you’re not ‘good enough’, nor do you need to burn up so much of your bandwidth comparing you to others. The pushing ourselves too hard, putting ourselves down, and the comparison—they suck the joy out of things. What if we don’t have to try so bloody hard? #baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasernomore #peoplepleasers #healthyboundaries #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparison #innercritic

My inner perfectionist, if it had its way, would ensure that I did everything A++++++++++++++ 🤣 There’s beauty in not trying to do everything ‘perfectly’ and not putting the expectation on yourself that you have to be The Best. But you also don’t need to make out like you’re not ‘good enough’, nor do you need to burn up so much of your bandwidth comparing you to others. The pushing ourselves too hard, putting ourselves down, and the comparison—they suck the joy out of things. What if we don’t have to try so bloody hard?

#baggagereclaim #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasernomore #peoplepleasers #healthyboundaries #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparison #innercritic ...

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