Boundaries and the messages contained in discomfort
When you’re out of alignment with your values and needs, the discomfort you experience is an alert. It’s letting you know something about your boundaries, what is going on, and what potentially needs to happen. You’re being asked to do something...People-pleasing and the fear of ‘inconveniencing’ others
Something I’m very aware of is that I have an in-built discomfort about ‘inconveniencing’ others. Thanks to being a recovering people-pleaser and it being as natural to me as breathing because it started in early childhood, my longstanding habit was...
We ignore red flags and our intuition because we want the fantasy
When we’re truly honest about why we ignore red flags or what I call code amber and red alerts, it’s because we want whoever or whatever it is to become our ideal person or situation. We’re in pursuit of a far-out fantasy. And if despite the odds given the red flags,...How To Say No To Festive Invites
It’s not uncommon during the festive season for this idea that we’re rejecting a person by saying no to take hold. Or, we think that because it’s the festive season that we’re supposed to do everything and feel a particular way. We then...
How to deal with feeling obliged during the festive season
Have you felt conflicted about some of the requests that you’re dealing with this month due to the season’s festivities? If so, it’s likely due in part to the struggle of that people-pleaser part of you that struggles to discern what’s fair and...
