Authentic self? Real self? What On Earth Does It Mean To Be Yourself?

In a world proliferated with inspirational quotes and lots of encouragement to be ourselves, lots of us don’t know what this means. It’s why one of my most frequently asked questions is, What the hell does being yourself mean and look like? Being yourself...

From Emotional Shutdown to Self-Compassion: My Self-Care Evolution

Over the last two decades, I’ve learned to pay attention to signs from my body and my life that I need attention and/or that I need to ask for or seek additional help and support from safe sources. This attitude is a dramatic shift for me because for the 28 years...

‘Am I Self-Aware?’ Do You Trust, Listen To, Care For, and Know Yourself?

We’re often encouraged to be self-aware, but what does that mean? Here are some questions to help you answer the question Am I self-aware? Do you say no when you need, want to or even should? In those instances where you recognise you need to say no after saying yes,...

When Comfort Becomes a Trap: Rethinking How We Soothe Our Emotional Discomfort

Feeling worse when you experience the onset of certain emotions or feeling as if you’re trying to anaesthetize feelings you’re attempting to repress, or feeling at a loss as to what to do when you need comfort and support, means that, like many of us, you haven’t...

Your Breakup or Relationship Status Doesn’t Reflect Your Worth or Identity

I’ve worked with many clients who feel they’ve failed or are a failure because of a breakup or not being in a relationship yet. This mentality tells me a few things: They see themselves as being 100% responsible for the success of a relationship, so they will go to...

Unclench Your Trust Fists So You Can Experience More Self-Trust

Trust begets trust. Your level of trust in others reflects the level of confidence you have in trusting yourself. Saying that no one is trustworthy or being suspicious and sceptical is just a going-round-the-houses way of saying that you don’t trust...