Giving 100 Percent Effort All The Time is a Boundary and Bandwidth Issue
As a recovering perfectionist and people-pleaser, I’ve acknowledged that my habits are significantly influenced by believing that anything less than 100% is ‘bad’. When anything was below, for instance, what my parents or teachers wanted or expected,...We Don’t Need the Perfect Reaction to Our Upset but a Pause Helps
Far too many people pressure themselves to speak on something perfectly and immediately. They want to get fired up and know exactly what to say or do straight away. When they don’t, they beat themselves up afterwards for not having the perfect words or addressing...We Don’t Have to Judge Our Own or Other People’s Confidence Levels So Much
People often assume I’m extroverted and that I’m a Confident Person. They mention my public speaking, writing this blog for almost seventeen years, and my love of dancing and letting loose to 90s R&B or dance. I’m quite introverted though. I also...Feeling conflicted when a friend attempts to reconnect after a fallout and distancing
I’ve spoken to so many people who still wrestle with grief over the end of a friendship. As I explained in my friendship series of podcast episodes, we imagine that our friendships will last forever and take it to heart when we outgrow them or we experience a...Distinguishing intuition from fear builds self-trust and confidence
Something we find really difficult to do as humans is working out whether what we’re thinking and feeling is prompted by fear or our intuition. We struggle to distinguish fear feelings and criticism from our inner voice, so our sense of self, including our...
