When a relationship ends, your interest isn’t returned, or you’re dealing with a commitment-shy person, the sense of rejection that results can cause you to continue to engage with him/her for attention and validation in the hope of a happy ending. Instead we create more pain for ourselves and are unable to move on.
Have you found yourself unable to let go of a relationship even though the person has already moved on?
Are you hoping that if you hold on for long enough, the object of your affections will reciprocate your feelings?
Do you keep breaking up to make up? Have you been doing it for years?
Do you become near obsessed when it’s over and keep returning to the relationship in the hope that things will be different this time?
Or have you found yourself dealing with someone who keeps trying to contact you when you tell them it’s over…but is not prepared to give you the relationship you want?
Confused by being chased, the mixed signals, the hounding you with texts and calls and then disappearing, the leaving you for one woman and then sniffing around you, and their patent inability to let you go so that you can grieve and move on?
Do they keep talking about being friends but are pushing for sexual contact?
Are they not interested in you in ‘that way’ but you keep trying to persuade him/her?
Do you avoid this person for a while and then call out of the blue hoping that they’ll be different?
Wondering how you can continue working together or how you can get him out of your hair when you share children?
Inject boundaries so you can kill off the yo-yoing and boomeranging back and forth so that you can move on.
Breaking up by cutting contact is the extremely effective way of teaching someone that it’s over through actions instead of what they perceive to be empty words. It communicates that whatever terms have been enjoyed previously are now over. This detailed comprehensive survival guide provides all the info you need to understand what no contact is, why it’s necessary and effective, what they’re thinking, dealing with the feeling of rejection, breaking your pattern and understanding your compulsion, dealing with NC with a co-worker or the parent of your child, coping with social media, how to stay the course, and get onto rebuilding your life so that you can move on.
The No Contact Rule will stop you from ruling out all your options by fighting the compulsion to make him, the relationship, and your pain the only option.
Chasing someone who doesn’t love you back, or want you in the way that you want them, or recognise your value is exhausting. Get your energy, your sanity, your self-esteem and your power back, so that you can live.
Buy The No Contact Rule ebook for £12 (check the price over on the shop page). This is for both the PDF (for printing and computer, as well as various apps) and ePub (mobile device apps and many eReaders excl Kindle) version. Bundle discounts are available via the shop.
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About this version. This is the second edition of the book and has been newly updated and beefed up at double the original size. It’s pretty much an entirely different book. Your purchase files contain a PDF which is great for computers, printing and read via apps like Goodreader on mobile devices, an epub version of the book (works on most eReaders and mobile devices but not Kindle and is normally sold separately) plus a Feelings Diary worksheet worth £4.99 and The Unsent Letter Guide 2nd edition. Please note that extras available with this purchase aren’t necessarily available with other purchases.
Who Am I? I (Natalie Lue also known as NML) am the founder of Baggage Reclaim which I use to help empower people so that they can have healthier relationships, both with themselves and out there in the crazy world of dating and relationships. With over 550K readers a month, through my blog posts, ebooks, and also working one-on-one with readers, I’ve used my experiences and my insight into the dynamics of modern day relationships to help people make positive change.
I’m not a psychologist or psych anything. I’m someone who used to have poor taste in men and thought I was having a run of bad luck until I got real with myself and recognised that I was the only common denominator in my relationships and that I had my own issues with commitment and emotional unavailability. That journey has been shared through my blogs and many men and women have used it to get real with themselves so that they can be accountable for their own choices.
If you are a blogger/media owner and would like to review the book for your publication, please email your details, including where the review will be appearing and approximately when you expect it to appear – natalie [at]baggagereclaim.co.uk