The No Contact Rule is the essential guide to breaking up when you can’t or won’t let go, or you’re tired of being treated like a backup plan.
When a relationship ends, your interest isn’t returned, or you’re dealing with a commitment-shy person, the sense of rejection that results tends to cause us to continue to engage with them for attention and validation in the hope of a happy ending. Instead we create more pain for ourselves and are unable to move on.
Have you found yourself unable to let go of a relationship even though the person has already moved on?
Are you hoping that if you hold on for long enough, the object of your affections will reciprocate your feelings?
Do you keep breaking up to make up? Have you been doing it for years?
Do you become near obsessed when it’s over and keep returning to the relationship in the hope that things will be different this time?
Or have you found yourself dealing with someone who keeps trying to contact you when you tell them it’s over…but is not prepared to give you the relationship you want?
Confused by being chased, the mixed signals, the hounding you with texts and phonecalls and then disappearing, the leaving you for one woman and then sniffing around you, and their patent inability to let you go so that you can grieve and move on?
Does he keep talking about being friends but is pushing for sexual contact?
Is he not interested in you in ‘that way’ but you keep trying to persuade him?
Do you avoid him for a while and then call him out of the blue hoping that he’ll be different?
Wondering how you can continue working together or how you can get him out of your hair when you share children?
Inject boundaries so you can kill off the yo-yoing and boomeranging back and forth so that you can move on.
Breaking up by cutting contact is the extremely effective way of teaching someone that it’s over through actions instead of what they perceive to be empty words. It communicates that whatever terms have been enjoyed previously are now over.This detailed comprehensive survival guide provides all the info you need to understand what no contact is, why it’s necessary and effective, what they’re thinking, dealing with the feeling of rejecting breaking your pattern and understanding your compulsion, dealing with NC with co-workers or the parent of your child, how to stay the course, and get onto rebuilding your life so that you can move on.
The No Contact Rule will stop you from ruling out all your options by fighting the compulsion to make him, the relationship, and your pain the only option.
Chasing someone who doesn’t love you back, or want you in the way that you want them, or recognise your value is exhausting. Get your energy, your sanity, your self-esteem and your power back, so that you can live.
Using my own experiences and those of readers, I’ve written The No Contact Rule ebook to help you gain back your power and help you avoid and minimise the opportunities for people to abuse your boundaries, or for you. If you’ve had a history of dealing with emotionally unavailable men and guys that mistreat you, this acts as a companion to my other ebook Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl, which is a no holds barred guide to understanding the dynamics of the most prolific type of relationship in modern times. Find out more or you can purchase both of them together in a bundle for £20.40!
Who Am I? I (Natalie Lue also known as NML) am the founder of Baggage Reclaim which I use to help empower people so that they can have healthier relationships, both with themselves and out there in the crazy world of dating and relationships. With over 120K readers a month, through my blog posts, ebooks, and also working one-on-one with readers, I’ve used my experiences and my insight into the dynamics of modern day relationships to help people make positive change.
I’m not a psychologist or psych anything. I’m someone who used to have poor taste in men and thought I was having a run of bad luck until I got real with myself and recognised that I was the only common denominator in my relationships and that I had my own issues with commitment and emotional unavailability. That journey has been shared through my blogs and many men and women have used it to get real with themselves so that they can be accountable for their own choices.
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