Forget Meeting the Parents: Spotting the Real Signs of a Rock-Solid Relationship

Many believe they are in a loving relationship with potential because they have met their date’s (or partner’s) friends or parents. For them, people only introduce romantic partners to their inner circle if they are serious about the relationship. Surely, they...

Why There’s No ‘Easy Cook’ Recipe for Real Relationships

Over almost two decades of writing about dating and relationships, I’ve observed time and again in people’s questions and anxiety that what many of us would love is step-by-step instructions for how to go from single to long-term relationship. Ideally, we’d also...

Compliance Doesn’t ‘Win’ You a Relationship

We have all rules that we consciously and unconsciously follow. Some are dating rules we’ve observed and internalised from the culture. Plenty are our own version of trying to do life, dating and relationships in a paint-by-numbers fashion. If I do (or don’t do) X,...

Dating Rules Don’t Work. Let’s Stop Blocking Intimacy.

Some people have had sex on the first date, only to never hear from the person again. Others went on to have a relationship and may even still be together. Some waited several weeks or months or abstained until marriage and progressed to a loving relationship. For...

But Really, Is It ‘Okay’ To Date Somebody You Don’t See a Future With?

As humans, we give ourselves permission to be, do and have things that are’t necessarily reflective of who we are in the main or our stated intentions and values.  We say we want to cut back on sugar and then, when stressed, give ourselves permission to eat...
When is it ‘okay’ to have sex? You decide, not the fake rules and shoulds

When is it ‘okay’ to have sex? You decide, not the fake rules and shoulds

When is it okay to have sex? What’s the ideal number of dates (or months of a relationship) to have sex? Should I have sex on the third date? Does having sex on the first date write off any prospects of a relationship [with that person]? If they’re willing to wait to...