Living a life that respects you and follows the path of the values you claim to have means you shouldn’t be trying to ‘strike up a deal’ with any ‘ole person. Unfortunately, this is what many people are attempting to do with dating. Before you’ve even sussed out the...
When I was a product design student, I learned through theory and experience that it's better to recognise mistakes or even 'failure'. Although it's a lack of success, at the same time these also represent another opportunity for change. Recognising when something...
Many of the stories that readers share about their relationship experiences, in a nutshell boil down to things not being mutual. Lack of mutual interest, lack of mutual words and actions, lack of mutual values, lack of mutual love, care, trust, and respect and lack of...
Many BR readers are venturing back out there and dating again, and of course, if you've had your hands burnt in an unavailable relationship or have even encountered behaviour and situations which left you shaken or questioning whether you can trust yourself, you'll be...
If you've stayed in a relationship long past its sell-by date, you worried about what you've 'put in' and focused on getting a return on investment. Instead of thinking about who [the object of your affections] consistently is and the present, you think about the good...
Yesterday I explained about how when we tell ourselves 'stories' about why we are with someone, why we think we feel so much for them and why we can't let go of the relationship, these are 'hooks'. They often inexplicably draw you to the person and common examples of...
I've been in enough pseudo, illusionary relationships to know that I have sometimes made assumptions about the state of play and engaged in behaviour that was counterproductive to me actually forging a healthy relationship with a chance of growing. This happens...
Many people who struggle to move their relationships forward or to move on after a breakup focus on identifying the responsibility (and fault) lines. This attitude and mentality are tricky when the relationship is still ongoing because it becomes the blame game and...
I’ve been talking to a few readers recently where they’ve become a victim to their own great expectations. Let’s be real – we all have expectations to some level and this is normal, but if you find yourself in dubious relationships or being disappointed by those...