by NATALIE | Nov 8, 2021 | Letting Go
When we’re a people-pleaser, perfectionist or overthinker who’s likely been prone to overgiving and over-responsibility, there can be a tendency to want to control endings, including how the other party perceives us. We go through a break-up or have a...
by NATALIE | Sep 8, 2021 | Letting Go
Humans love to feel in control of the uncontrollable, which, incidentally, is pseudo-control. Comforting, sure, but nonetheless an illusion. Take breakups. We can feel, for all intents and purposes, ‘over’ our ex based on how we see life working out. Who...
by NATALIE | Jul 20, 2021 | Letting Go
Refusing to forgive yourself is a refusal to take responsibility. Just as punishing a child without a clear understanding of responsibility, the lesson and moving forward is ineffective and cruel, so is deliberately, whether you admit it or not, choosing to make you...
by NATALIE | Jun 30, 2021 | Letting Go
Post-breakup as you endeavour to come to terms with the loss of the relationship, it’s not uncommon to fret a little (or even a lot) about whether you’re on the ‘right track’. If you’re No Contact, the enforced distance can cause you to wonder if you’re really...
by NATALIE | May 26, 2021 | Letting Go
Don’t get too caught up in the story. When you’ve experienced hurt, loss and disappointment, it’s easy to become swaddled in the security blanket of the pain. You get used to telling the story in a particular way. And then you repeat it, again and again, and...
by NATALIE | Apr 13, 2021 | Letting Go
Many moons ago, I bumped into an ex who made a point of letting me know that he was “over” me. To be clear, I hadn’t asked, and he dropped it into the conversation as if he’d kept a juicy secret under wraps and couldn’t hold it for even a...
