Creating Healthier Boundaries Lets You Move On and Forgive Yourself

Forgiveness isn’t about ‘condoning’ what happened. It’s not an easy pass, complacency or letting ourselves or someone else off the hook, as if to say the alternative is punishment or suitable atonement. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness doesn’t equate to...

The Past is a Guide, Not a Verdict.

The past doesn’t have to define who you are; it tells you where you’ve been and what you’ve been through. When you judge past versions of yourself unfairly, it shapes the way you see yourself now and in the future. You are here, living and breathing, and can exact...

Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All

The aim of a relationship isn’t to show up doing what you always do. You don’t have a pre-defined role. No, you don’t. Shout-out to all the people pleasers, including Florence Nightingales, Listeners, Buffers, Good Girls/Guys, Helpers, Savers, and more, of the world....
To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

When a significant relationship ends, or even when you step away from a job or career that you thought was ‘it’, you grieve the loss. Even though you may be aware that the relationship/marriage/job/career wasn’t working and all of the reasons why, you can still wind...

Disappointment From Unmet Expectations is a Much-Needed Wake-Up Call

Each time you base your self-image, self-esteem and every thought, feeling, need, desire or expectation on the premise that you’re responsible for other people’s feelings and behaviour, you give away your power. How much room you have in your life for...
The Relationship or Situation Not Working Might Hurt, but It Isn’t a ‘Waste’

The Relationship or Situation Not Working Might Hurt, but It Isn’t a ‘Waste’

When you feel hurt and disappointed, a deep sense of loss can kick in. Like when you’re in the aftermath of a breakup. You might believe that your efforts were a waste because you may have invested months or years. Or maybe you compromised yourself by doing...